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Default Jan 12, 2023 at 03:05 PM
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I was aware my husband has depression, but the last few years, it's gotten worse. I've begged him to get him, asked him to go to couple's counseling with me, and tried everything suggested in every mental health article I can find online.

We had a son last spring and now I find myself not just alone the majority of the time, but also carrying the weight of everything. We don't have family nearby. I work full-time from home and care for our son. We've had countless arguments over him not helping like he should. The fact that I even have to ask for help is a problem. I understand he has depression and have had other family members in that situation. I've dealt with depression and anxiety myself my entire life. He seems to think that medication is enough, though it obviously isn't.

It feels like we're both constantly in survival mode, and it's too the point where I'm having an increasingly difficult time working through my anger and resentment because I feel alone and unloved. I've tried some things at the suggestion of my therapist. My therapy has now become all about me handling the situation with him. It's gotten to the point where I've told family members what's going on though they can't do anything to help.

I hate feeling so desperate and I hate being angry with him for something he can't control. I'm devastated at the thought of my son growing up without an active, involved father and my having to live a life without the partner I married. Most days I wake up and just cry with anxiety wondering how difficult the day will be and the uncertainty of how we can work together to improve our lives. I'm sure other people have been in this position. I'm really just looking to be heard and hear of anyone's success stories or other suggestions.
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Default Jan 13, 2023 at 03:18 PM
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It is really heartbreaking that you are bearing the crushingly heavy burdens you carry. I wish I knew what to say that would help but I was in a similar situation for a while and I was never able to find a really good solution. Sure hope that others here in similar situations will see your post and have something helpful for you. I'm so sorry I don't know how to be helpful to you or your son.
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