[youOme]

My sister has again, abondened her child with me.

Last year I took care of my nephew along with my own to toddlers for 5 months while she ran the streets doing drugs and being promiscous. Now she's doing it again. She got her paycheck Friday and has disappeared. She left my nephew with my Mom who is very ill, she asked me to take him thinking my sister would be back either that night or the next morning. Well, she has not returned. We didn't even know anything till she called a friends house saying she was only coming back to her boyfriends house to get her stuff and that was it. I don't think she's coming back for her son, she has done this before. I am seriosuly VERY disappointed in her. I'm tempted to open a can of whoop *** out on her next time I see her, personally I am sick and tired of her stupid selifish ****.

The last few times she left her son she suffered no consequences. I think she should this time. I am going to report her for child abondenment. The only thing I fear about that though is the father (who is the most worthless man alive) will have rights to him before me, although I have literally cared for this child on and off his entire life. I was the one who wore the father bracelet the day he was born and cut his embilical cord, I think I am more his father then his blood dad.

It's a stressful situation to take on though, because right now I have my own custody issues going on with my 4 and 5 year olds. I wanted to focus on this more then the situation involving my nephew, but what can I do? I can turn him away. I'm really struggling here, very upset. I have to take my own children back to their dad today.

[wanttoheal]

((((((((((((((youOme)))))))))))) I'm so sorry you have so much on your plate right now. Maybe you can talk to someone about it before you report it? I definitely think it needs to be reported, but perhaps there are steps you can do so that your nephew can stay with you once you've reported. Off the top of my head, I am wondering if you can get foster parent status? Maybe that would allow him to stay with you while it's all sorted out? I really have no idea though, but there must be someone you can talk to, to find out the best solution. Best of luck to you in all this. Please keep us posted.

[madisgram]

whew youome, that's a lot of stuff going on. i can understand why it is stressing you out. i believe you are correct about the father having rights before you but is he in the child's life at all to even care about what happens to his son? the authorities would be obligated to advise him of the situation if your sister's actions are known. so yes you're in a difficult position.i'd suggest that you seek some guidance on all this...right now your neph is with you all, right? i believe you could apply for some assistance thru the state if you are caring for him. food stamps, a monetary allottment, and medical coverage. don't know if any other family members would help out on this, taking care of your neph, so you can focus your attention on your own needs at this time. i'm sorry you are going thru such a rough time of it. know you care about your neph too. will keep you in my thoughts.