Is coming to visit. I saw him once one day at 3 months old.
Tuesay will be their third attempt at medication changes.

My son is 31. His wife 26. It is difficult for my son to handle him. He is sent home from school often. His little sister is 5 she does not have it.

Any suggestions.

I ask my son how he handles it. I'm told it's not chemical, can only be controlled.

Suggested of other Grand parents please, gently.

Very much apprieciated

[Yoda]

My son was diagnosed with ADHD in kindergarden after he was kicked out of class for turning over a table and terrorizing the kindergarden teacher and wasn't allowed to return to school until his dad and I met with the principal. I was amazed. He was a five year old child that I thought quite normal because I didn't recognize his hyperactivity. We had a small jungle gym in the house and he would dangle and flip and never walked but only ran. I was pretty hesitant to give him the ritalin the doctor ordered but a half hour after his first dose he was sitting calmly with his hands folded in his lap. That convinced me.

It took a lot more of ritalin than usual to manage a child of his size. There are so many more options now but it is trial and error getting it right.

ADHD requires behavioral management besides meds. At his age one important thing to do would be give a single instruction at a time rather than saying three things you want him to do. My son required (and still does at nineteen) frequent reminders. When he was a child I would tell him to read his classbook and he agreed but on the way to the room something would distract him and when I asked if he had started he would say, I forgot. He really had.

You might want to consider having him evaluated by the school psychologist. My son had tests and he was diagnosed with a written language disorder. Since most of class assignments are written this was a big problem.

My son's hyperactivity became less when he became a teenager but he still has a mind that flits from one subject to another to another in seconds. A typical evening with him now is watching him play online video games with his buddies and chat with them on a headset while he has the telephone on conference with his girlfriend and another close friend chatting away on speakerphone. It's like having a crowd over and is often quite entertaining.

My county offered yearly inservices for teachers and parents and I learned so much about the ADHD from the classes.

I don't visit this site often but if you have any questions PM me. I have several reference books if I can find them for behavioral strategies for dealing with ADHD.

[Yoda]

Just wanted to add one more thing - it is crap that they are sending him home from school often. Regular education teachers don't take education about special needs children often.

I would get so frustrated because the teacher would call me and say, he spent all of his math class underneath his desk flopping and and distracting the class. What did they want me to do? You need immediate intervention at that age. He had forgotten it when he was home. I met with the teacher and school psychologist and special ed specialist and they developed a written plan for dealing with his hyperactivity. When he was severely inattentive and hyperactive an aide would walk the halls with him until he had calmed down. That helped my son a lot.

[katheryn]

having a child with ashd i hear what you say about controlling the adhd, memory spam is short so giving instructions need to be short and to the point no explaing the situation as they forget by the time you get to end of sentances,

my son is going to be 18 in sep he is still medicated, coz i asked for him to carry on while he is still in education, medication only works while its in the system it doesnt build up like some meds ritilin the does starts when it enters te child and is gone before next dose so remember that child will feel like a yo,yo with moods and behaviour changing average lengh of time for ritilin to last is 4hrs the main time child needs it is while going to school and to get ready in morniing

my son changed to concerta xl when he was 11 so it would help when he went up to secondary school as its slow release, i have four children only two are adhd/add but it doesnt mean its not chemical as i also have traits of adhd as well

THANK ALL OF YOU SO VERY MUCH. MY SON BEING 31. DOESN'T WANT ME TO QUESTION HIM ANYMORE ABOUT IT.

I WAS BLESSED WITH WHAT HE DID.

I RESPECT MY SON'S WISHES. HE IS GETTING MY GRANDSON THE HELP HE NEEDS, BUT HE SEEMS LIKE

SOMETHINGS NOT RIGHT WITH HIS BOY.

HE WON'T GO FOR CONVERSATION. BUT, THEY ARE DEVOTE PARENTS AND

ALL IS WELL- THANX SO SO SO VERY MUCH

[Pup]

ADHD is a chemical disorder in the brain, not something that can be "controlled", it is not something that will disappear, it's life long. I have ADHD and it's very bad. The poor lad probably wants to be a good boy but he finds it so hard... so many things come from ADHD... impulsivity... hyperactivity... not paying attention or/and being distracted easily... a lot of symptoms go into these symptoms... medication is not always the solution however, and he's very young too, medication gave me awful side effects despite improving my symptoms > it wasn't worth the cons. I hope the young lad will find techniques to help him with this condition, it's very disabling for many out there in the world.

I go to a special needs school, perhaps that is an option for him also?