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Default Sep 25, 2021 at 05:22 PM
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I was involved w a man who’s married but left his wife and son for faraway job - says he just felt like it, for $/selfishness/ freedom, and his family cried for him to stay and he ignored. In the meantime, he told me, he asked his old GF to move w him instead, then went back on it. Says His wife briefly thew him out & his ex tried to commit suicide bc of him. Says if he can leave his little boy then he can leave anyone and won’t feel badly. Says he’s a sociopath and feels nothing. Says he can’t be in a relationship bc he’s paralyzed by missing his son so much, but he’s the one who left

-randomly tells me he can’t have sex bc he’s still married and feels guilty and he’s never getting divorced (used to lead me to think he was), or that he still loves his wife, or doesn’t want sex to have any power over him … and in exact same convo, sexts me

-randomly went away and ignored Valentines Day weekend and when I said I was bummed, told me “I always told you we were only something casual,” then went into a depressed monologue about he’s poison to everyone

-Told me he’d never want to, or even could be, in another relationship bc there’d always be expectations he couldn’t meet and he will never be able to fully be w anyone

-would say passionate things in text but always in person was cold and detached/ left right after sex, never stayed the night, if I ever put an affectionate hand on him he’d remove it. Two different people in text and person. Might interrupt me midsentence in person, staring at wall, to ask me for sexual favor.

-After telling me we would only ever be friends, tried to make me feel badly for seeing other men. Called me disloyal after he’d told me multiple times to move on. I said but you’re still married and said we were only friends, and he’d just say well I guess I must not be special

-said stuff about how he wanted some other woman and they were close in the past, later I saw she defriended / blocked him on social media. Then suddenly he’s going to a party w her and bringing his son allegedly buT at very same time sexting me and making plans to meet up with me again for sex

-When I talked to his wife first she accused me of making up the account w screenshots, then said ok whatever he’s playing you too; let me know when you make it publicly official
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Default Sep 25, 2021 at 07:43 PM
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Sounds like a mess. Him and the entire situation.

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Default Sep 25, 2021 at 09:00 PM
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You aren't describing mood swings which is essential to bipolar. We can't diagnose on here but you may want to look into personality disorders (especially since you say he self-diagnoses as a sociopath). there's alsot he relationship forum that might help you.

Unless there is more that you aren't describing I don't think bipolar is the problem.

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Default Sep 27, 2021 at 06:18 AM
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Yeah, doesn't sound like bipolar to me. I don't see anything in that description that would suggest bipolar disorder. It's more like what people who don't know anything about bipolar disorder mistakenly assume bipolar people are like, and that saddens me.

Bipolar people are not sociopaths, nor are they abusive, take advantage of people, or any of the things you described. It's hard to say what's the problem with this guy, but as a bipolar person I do know that I don't want people to think I'm like that.

Yes, I have bipolar disorder. I've also been with my wife for 15 years, raise my kids to the best of my ability, work full time, and take my responsibilities seriously. I'm not some asshole who goes around taking advantage of people. The pain of being bipolar is something I generally bear alone and in silence, as much as possible. I do my best not to let anyone or anything in my environment suffer because of me.

I'm sorry, don't take this personally, but I just don't like this sort of misinformation floating around on the Internet. There's enough stigma as it is. I wish people would just do their homework before they go wielding psychiatric diagnostic terms in ways that have absolutely zero bearing on reality. And I don't mean that to target you, specifically. Unfortunately it's a widespread issue, and it's one of the main reasons why people with mental illness are afraid to mention it to anyone and have to suffer alone.

So yeah, long story short, I'm sorry you've been involved with an abusive person and that it's caused you so many issues, but please don't go blaming it on bipolar people who have nothing to do with it.

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Default Oct 01, 2021 at 04:27 PM
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Doesn't sound like Bipolar at all.. More like just a lousy Human being.

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