[Maryanne]

Hi there,

I think I'm very paranoid about a lot of things....I analyse a lot......my current issue at the mo that has been going on and on is.....I like to open up to people I connect with (such as close friends or those who feel I feel I am close with), want to trust, but in doing so I find I open up far too much, I inform certain friends of unnecessary very personal stuff about myself.... whilst it feels good opening up, I'm later left with what appears to feel like severe stress with worry and regrat for having told that person(s) of my own private thoughts.
Question is how do I stop myself from doing this?
I am a single parent which could explain opening up but I think I still did it somewhat when I was in a relationship although he never listened hence "ex". I also lost my mother at a young age, is this why? Either way I want help in knowing how to stop myself........??? please help...

[ECHOES]

Unfortunately no one here is qualified to offer a diagnosis.
If you don't have a therapist, it might be helpful to have one to work with to discover the reasons for your behavior. Learning about the reasons, where the behavior comes from and what you hope for (not conciously) by doing them, can really help. Sometimes just understanding what is going on is enough to give relief and make the behavior not needed, so it goes away. Sometimes it takes more direct work to notice it and think about why it is happening at that moment, with that (other) person, and what you are hoping for or avoiding. Becoming aware of it happening as it happens helps you put the brakes on it.

I hope this helps and you post again