Welcome to the Personality Place

As per members' requests, we've created this forum to allow members to discuss any issues regarding personality, both disorders and normal personality traits. A list of some of the most recognized personality disorders, their symptoms and possible treatments <A target="_blank" HREF=http://psychcentral.com/disorders/index.html#person>may be found on Psych Central</A>. Other topics, such as addictive personality or simply different traits you're learning to come to terms with, are also appropriate. Just start a new thread for whatever is on your mind!

Welcome and enjoy!

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DocJohn

Thanks, DocJohn! As one who recently received a secondary dx of borderline personality disorder, I appreciate having this new forum dedicated to the topic of personality disorders/traits.

Thanks Doc John, this seems like a place that will be great for me

Hi, Thanks so much for trying to help people like my self to understand what their problem is and how to cope with it. IM new here and Im not sure how to leave a message on the message board. That's why Im writting to u. IM dying inside and Im not sure why, I been going for help in the last 6 years and I saw atleast 10 pros who told me 10 different things. I was giving medication for Bipolar disorder, perosnality disroder, adult ADHA, anixty disorder, and a few aother thing. Im 35 years of age and It's getting worst by the day. Not married yet, no girl friend ( when I do have one it usually lasts for no more than 6 months), never leaned how to drive because Im so scared because I can't foucus. I took the Adhd test, persoanlity test and depprisson test and I scaored hi on all three. this is the greatest country in the world and it's just sad to see how hard is it for someone like my self to get help. whenever I go see a Dr for the first time they don't even spend more than 10 minutes with me, I feel all they really do is guess. I feel like I have something that not too many people have out there. I have so many mixed thoughts, no feelings. I feel like Im outside my body ( no self image) and I feel like Im connected to everyone and everything around me. I been living on my own for about 10 years and I feel like I need to be alone because of all the crazy thoughts in my head that don't make any sense what's so ever. Im always worried and not sure what about. Plz help me and tell me what to do. Im not a mean guy and I tried to be one with my Dr's so they can help me and so they wont take advantage of me.( i guess people can tell when someone is lost and weak and they take advantage of it ). That didn't work. I know it's hard for anyone out there to tell me what's really wrong with me but Im giving it a try and hope God answers my prayers. Thanks for reading and God bless.

This forum sounds like the right place for me because it is very open. My problem is much more general than a relationship problem, so I am looking forward to the advice of the courageous people who will read my long post. Your website is a great help in general !! I need advice about my behavior and it seems that US psychological websites are dealing much more with behavioral strategies than French ones. Sometimes, analyzing just brings you so far. Or am I wrong ?

are you really a doctor? do you ever respond to people's posts? do YOU have a personality disorder?

I found out loads of info on Doc John including his experience as a mental health professional, books, television appearances.... just by typing in Dr. John Grohol in your search bar. I love the fact that there is a licensed professional behind this on line support group. I have read many of Doc John posts and threads so I know he does respond and post when he can, but I also think (my opinion) he is leaving room for everyone here to help each other instead of just relying on him and his professional background.

Thanks for starting Psych Central and being here when you can Doc John.

You can click on his username to read his profile, which has a link to his homepage, with a bio. Or here's a direct link to his bio: DocJohn's Bio

Its sad to hear your predicament and I also feel a little like you. So lets not be so sensitive to the negative and be responsive to the possibility that there is a way out. Is that way out? I know you know I know. It's time to say NO to the negative and YES to the positive. You trust youself to trust others and it matters little if it's right or wrong. So continue to trust yourself anyway always in all ways. The way and its conseqences. In maturity we discover the consequences are not so great yet they are our mate. Ever encouraging us to sustain our motivation. So rejoice and be bold in tribulation for you are precious and not one soul will be lost. Jesus was a boy too. And His examples are not all revealed and that is because some things are left for us to see and experience leading to an intimacy that is personal real and unique. You are real personal and unique and I thank you for touching my resolve. May the Spirit of Life and Sound resonate resoundingly in our being one. Nice ne One.

Is there a practical presciption for Avoidant Personality Disorder? I welcome suggestions. Thanks

Sometimes medications can help with symptoms, but personality disorders respond best to therapy. It's hard work, but you can beat it. I have avoidant personality disorder too.

Ok som here's the thing. I am 55, retired from the AF in 1990, worked again, retired again. Now during all this I have anxiety (panic attack) disorders, ADD, a little OCD, and depresssion? I guess my question is outside of the anxiety, which I can feel, and quiet down with meds, I don't really feel depressed. I am mad at myself from divorcing my first wife to marry an old sweetheart. (I was married 29 years), I have been remarried for 5. I always wanted to divorce my lst, and now I am questioning #2. I am scared to death of leaving but I really do want peace., no anxiety I really question the ADD., I am really going off the deep end or have I reached the end and am starting out?

Sloviak44,

Welcome to PC! I just noticed that you hadn't gotten any replies yet to your question. You are more likely to get replies if you start your own thread. If you like, I can move your post and make a new thread out of it. Just let me know, ok?

My father retired from the AF too, so I'm familiar with the lifestyle.

Have you had any therapy for your anxiety and depression, etc.? What you describe sounds like a lot of stress, which therapy might help you with, and it sounds like you have some confusion about what you want to do with your life. It doesn't sound like "going off the deep end" to me. More like you are looking for some direction and maybe a little confused.

I just read a book about relationships and advice and how we make decisions, etc. The title is "Should You Leave?" by Peter D. Kramer. It's really a lot more than you might think from the title, almost written like a novel. I learned a lot from it, about all the things that come into play when we make decisions or give advice. It also helped me to understand my relationships better. It sounds like something you might get something out of.

Hi,
I have just been diagnosed after about 20 years with Dependent, Avoindant personality with a bit of perfectionist thrown in. Although happy with diagnoses, now need to learn more about it. Any suggestions and also what types of meds are used would be very helpful. Thanks

Aja 47

Meds are generally not particularly useful for personality disorders themselves, but might help if you have symptoms like depression or anxiety. If you are perfectionistic, it is likely that you have some anxiety. You will need to talk to your doctor if you are interested in meds. I would suggest writing down the specific symptoms that you would like help with. For some of them, CBT or some other talk therapy will probably help more than meds will. If you click the "Disorder" and "Resources" tabs, you can probably find more specific treatment ideas for your specific symptoms and disorders.

i am a new member who has had bpd and major depressive disorder along with gad. i am wanting to meet others who are like me. I have many issues and have problems dealing with them

Welcome to PC, Robert. That would be a tough combination to deal with (I have some of the same stuff too). How much do you feel that the anxiety and depression are related to your personality disorder?

this will be a very good place for me. for in real life, i can't really open up and talk about my feelings and such, but online, i can speak more freely and im a whole lot more open with my feelings. i feel like this will be an excellent place.

Thank you docJohn for making this forum. I am never sure which catagory to post in because I have so many things wrong. But, I guess they all fall into BPD...so this will work out just fine! I appreciate this website and especially appreciate the Tuesday chats when I get good advice from you! thanks again,........Marie

hello doctor John! I am really glad to join psych central for my own help and convenience. I am from Pakistan and doing my graduate in psychology, a new entry in this field offcourse. I am so confused about my sub but hope I will soon gain grip over it with the help and guidance of the helping people like u. Your community and this site is very helping. thanks

you may want to talk to a doctor about that one--we cannot prescribe meds

It's really not a good idea to ask us to recommend meds here online; is there a reason you can't talk to your doctor about it?

Hi I'm a new member.
Lots and lots to say, but for now, I have a burning question.
Why do I always create tension/problems with work colleagues and have felt different all my life?
Had first breakdown last year, following conflict at work.
Since then have been searching for reasons and have tried therapy, but get irritated with it.

Any thoughts welcome

Can you start a forum for nonspecific personality disorders?

Hi al
I ameturning to the forums due to unresolved issues.
I am seeking some thoughts/views regarding my likelong habit of alienating myself from others, nice and not so nice people alike!
I have obsessive thoughts and paranoia when I perceive slights and imagined rejection -cant 'deal with the idea. This is at work and with friends, although haven't got many now.
I really dislike myself in all areas, althoughhave flashes of feeling happy, but these are brief as a downer is always close, after say, an argument, issue at home which can be fairly minor, and have had a breakdown in thepast due to work issue with colleagues.
This is sadly, not a new issue for me, and even as achild remember having friendship issues. My mum never approved of my friends though, and would be critical of them to me.
Anyway, I am wondering why this happens. I have sought therapy before but got scared when she gave me an easter egg!😯(at easter).,and never went back.
I freak out when others are too kind or get too close.
I feel like I nevet fit in and want to, but easily get irritated or hurt.
What to do?
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