[maggy.ng]

Im gonna die, I got a paranoid. I read HIV symptoms and I got almost all. I dare not go to lab. Im afraid of holding a positive HIV diagnosis.
Help me.

[winter4me]

Originally Posted by maggy.ng

Im gonna die, I got a paranoid. I read HIV symptoms and I got almost all. I dare not go to lab. Im afraid of holding a positive HIV diagnosis.
Help me.

Get tested. Before being paranoid. If you are positive, it is no longer the death sentence it once was---and if you are negative, and now, before being tested, start using Protection (meaning condom for him always---there are also female condoms available---or no sex.)-- AND, if this is an issue, NO sharing needles/toothbrushes/anything that can result in blood exchange via direct blood to blood or blood to mucous membrane-Get the information first.
You might want to go to a women's clinic if available for better support.

[maggy.ng]

Thank you. But I'm too young, and there will be a stigma from my family, society, etc. How could I get over it?

[winter4me]

Originally Posted by maggy.ng

Thank you. But I'm too young, and there will be a stigma from my family, society, etc. How could I get over it?

your age doesn't matter, the testing can be done anonymously and/or without parental consent, check on line for free testing sites in your area/state. if you are negative, it is over and you know how to protect yourself. if it is not, someone can help you deal with the rest----
although, since you say you are young, i would recommend you get counseling for yourself, sounds like you could use someone to help you figure out what you want to do, how you want to live. you will get through this.
if you feel safe in school, go to your guidance counselor to request help. just do not put yourself at risk by not addressing the problem(s)---you are worth a whole lot more than that.

[maggy.ng]

Thank you winter so much.
I'm getting into a state of very panic. I fear, my boyfriend took a test through online lab (it means they sent him a kit to suck a blood sample, then took it to its lab. he received the result via email). That's "non-reactive". But I don't believe that's true 'cause at some first times, I asked him for describing procedures, he did refuse to answer.
I asked him for many times to go in person to a lab with me to get checked. He says "yes, stop worrying, let's go together" all the time. I think I have to get this test soon. I'm very stressed.
Right now, I've had a sore throat for nearly a month, a lymph node between chin and neck for about a week, pretty night-sweats, and dry cough.
Before, after 4 weeks since the day I started having sex with him (we don't use condoms, he hates it. That's why I think I could be infected HIV by him. We continue having sex regularly without condoms),
1. I had an excruciating headache and muscle pain in the armpits with a pain in my teases.(I had never had that symptoms before)
2. A fatigue overwhelmed me, I just did want to sleep.
3. I had a diarrhea for one day (I don't remember)
How do you think? Help me please. I cant talk it out loud, confide it with anyone. I'm fear.

[Meisjes]

If your bf could get an test kit online, why can't you get a test online? Really if your bf is HIV positive and knows it, and continues to have unprotected sex with you, it seems that he doesn't really care for you or to protect you - he just wants sex. Tell him no sex till you know he is not HIV positive unless he's will to use protection. Don't worry about stigma so much, this is your life you are talking about. If you don't get tested and you are HIV positive someone's going to find out when you get so sick you have to go to hospital. Take care of you first instead of taking care of everyone else's feelings/thoughts. Care about yourself enough to not care what others think.

[maggy.ng]

Meisjes, Im intended to have an online test next week with him. He's confused he's infected HIV or not, as well. He's pretty sure cause he did not have many partners before. He said he'll be surprised if he were infected.
We're both gonna be tested. From me, Im very afraid. Im not brave enough to have a test.

[winter4me]

If you are really afraid STOP having sex, at least REFUSE unprotected sex. Both of you need to put your health over his not wanting to wear a condom, and that is all it is, just not wanting to. He also has to use it correctly. And get tested, for yourself, you can buy a home test now at a drug store. Do it. Your symptoms could be related to stress, anxiety, hormonal issues, many things---Remember that there are many sexually transmitted diseases, and the one you really don't want to get (especially if you happen not to be a responder to the available tx) is Hepatitis C...(and yes people still get syphilis, chlamydia, hep B (if not vaccinated), HPV (if not vaccinated, and some strains of HPV can result in cancer), herpes (very unpleasant potentially) and more....
What are you using for birth control? It is your life, your body, take it seriously and take care of yourself. Please.

[clash]

Look for a free clinic nearest you and go there. If you can't drive then have your boyfriend take you. The.test is free and anonymous. More than likely you're fine. Best of luck to you and your partner.

[maggy.ng]

thank you winter. I would follow your advice.

[Trippin2.0]

and children still wonder why we don't think they're ready for sex in the first place....

Maggy, get to a clinic and get tested asap, you've been given great advice above, now please follow it and hopefully the consequences of your actions do not follow you your whole life through.

Seriously I am not being mean, but seeing as though you have had ample support and coddling above I think its only fitting for me to give the tough love and say:

If you're going to behave like an adult, then atleast do it properly and not half-heartedly, which means taking RESPONSIBILITY. Making responsible WELL -INFORMED choices.

Best of luck to you, and please find a bf who actually cares about you and your safety, instead of this selfish sex-crazed boy.

I really do wish you well maggy

[maggy.ng]

thank you trippin

[jadzea]

Did you get a test? Did you get the results?

I am not a doctor so I could be as wrong as anything but the symptoms you describe also could be mono. It sounds like you are the right age for this illness. Put your mind at ease. Find out if you haven't already.

sounds like mono to me too. if you're in high school, it's much more likely to be mono unless your bf is/was highly promiscuous or is/was into drugs and sharing needles, or if you live in an area where HIV/AIDS is more common. and even then, unless he falls into the promiscuous/druggy categories, it's still more likely mono. mono is like lice. when it shows up everyone ends up having it, as it is spread easily and the symptoms manifest quickly.

however, the symptoms of HIV/AIDS do not manifest quickly after infection. it takes a while. i was told when i had myself tested a few years ago that the virus itself isn't detectable until about 6months after contracting it, and symptoms might not show up for years depending on how strong your immune system is. not a doctor, but that's just what i was told and that was a few years ago, there is probably better testing for it now.