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Oct 14, 2006 at 09:01 PM
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Oct 14, 2006 at 09:47 PM
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aww ((((((( Time0 )))))) .... sometimes that really does seem the safest thing to do, to be completely silent
 And maybe it even is the safest I am truly sorry for your pain. I wish I could help. I send you my support and love.Fuzzy __________________ 
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Oct 15, 2006 at 01:25 AM
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((((((((((((time))))))))) so sorry you are struggling right now.. im here for ya.. btw. i made a nother thread about mutism , but i dont wanna take away from your thread.. hope you are feeling better.
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Oct 15, 2006 at 03:00 AM
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Oct 15, 2006 at 09:30 PM
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Thank you all for replying.
Silence. I don't think really it is because I have a " feeling of being safer " when I prefer to stay silence and don't talk about my hurt inside. I don't have the impression that this is why I do this. It is more because I don't want attention on me, don't want people to feel pity on me, don't want people to feel I bother them, don't want to take the space that maybe someone else needs, don't want people to stop in their track just to help me out. Maybe I simply don't want people to know. But why I do not want people to know? Good question! I don't know. |
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Oct 15, 2006 at 10:05 PM
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  from me, sorry it isn't more...
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Oct 17, 2006 at 07:14 PM
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sorry you are having a rough time.
this sounds like me: </font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font> I don't want attention on me, don't want people to feel pity on me, don't want people to feel I bother them, don't want to take the space that maybe someone else needs, don't want people to stop in their track just to help me out. </div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> though, for me, it might not be the actual attention that I don't want-- I think I don't feel that I'm worthy-- so it then makes me feel guilty for getting something I shouldn't have..... I think--   Time0 you don't have to keep silent--- some here understand that lonely deep quiet cry-- I think it's less painful when shared. I'm here to listen if you want. mandy |
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Oct 17, 2006 at 10:01 PM
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-- I think I don't feel that I'm worthy-- so it then makes me feel guilty for getting something I shouldn't have..... I think--
Yes, exactly! Thank you! |
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Oct 17, 2006 at 10:34 PM
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Tears in the silence.
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Oct 18, 2006 at 07:27 AM
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So sorry you are having a rough time. (((( time0 ))))
And yes, it is so hard to talk. But please know that you are not alone, and some can 'hear' the silent pain. Do take care... |
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Oct 18, 2006 at 10:13 AM
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Thank you!
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Oct 18, 2006 at 02:23 PM
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((((((((time))))))))) i truely understand.
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Oct 18, 2006 at 06:06 PM
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((((((((((( Time0 )))))))))) Sending gentle thoughts,
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Oct 18, 2006 at 08:56 PM
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Me too. We learned not to take up space, not to use resources that someone else might want to use, not to be a bother. We learned to be very small and quiet and invisible. Feeling unworthy of love and attention is there too.
It's okay to be seen and heard though. We can't learn from you and your experiences if you don't share them, and I know that you have a lot that is worth sharing. __________________ “We should always pray for help, but we should always listen for inspiration and impression to proceed in ways different from those we may have thought of.” – John H. Groberg 
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Oct 18, 2006 at 09:01 PM
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Another Bingo.
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