how do intense emotions affect you?

Like expressed by others. I am always pretty leveled in emotions. I don't get too tied up in emotions only in a game like way. Like I can act well. But the hardest thing for me to ever do is sit and interact with someone who is going through a strong emotion. Like excitement other than arousal makes me uncomfortable like I'd rather wait for them to come down sometimes I pretend I'm happy for them and stuff or whatever but I think I still seem odd like my words are empty. There are times twice where one of my girl friends were distressed crying about something and it was like ehhh.... Like I just wished that they would figure it out or get over it. I remember someone saying I looked like I saw a ghost. For me it was really uncomfortable. I couldn't help her so it was just an annoyance. Her sad story and tears weren't going to change anything. I really couldn't wait for her to leave. Even though I liked her. The subject was too annoying. I never bring my problems to others or ask for help not to bother others. I don't really see why one has to rain on anyone else's day when they are having a bad day. It's annoying to me. And I don't know really what to do when people cry it freaks me out more than anything else. Also people in physical pain or sick freak me out but more in a way like gtf away from me I don't want what you got. I can't really tell subtle emotions. But like this is why in arguments I can't handle it. Because I will keep going. I can't handle someone getting over on me. Like they have to shut up. I have to win. That's why I just hit and run in arguments or avoid it all together. Angry people I tend to just let them roll right out every thing. But I have nothing to offer still. I'm like a wall. I have nothing to give. I try to avoid the destructive parts as much as possible. But I'm left with nothing. Nothing at all. And then I feel boring. So I just can't keep up with intense emotions it seems. Anyhow, how about you?

I'm exactly the same mate, why should you have to listen when you never share, or want to, and ironicly the majority of winging you hear is so pathetic and self-obsessed that I have had to stop myself from flipping on people, ignorant and boring is how I feel when I think about something to deep so I don't have a clue how people can ignore themselves that much. I always stop people before they start and tell them why and that it would be more rude to pretend to listen and care and lie to their face so try that, word it right though if you do as you will 100% look a **** but by how much lol.

Hello, LUTE20. Your post is rather nonplussing.

Even so, I wish you well.

what do you mean?

I can relate, not now but years ago. And I didn’t experience angry thoughts either. Maybe I was too afraid of the thoughts even. So I was kind of the exact opposite – obsessive, compulsive goody-two shoes. Finally got over it. 50 years of therapy on and off, the last 4 years finally effective but excruciatingly, horribly painful. I got connected to feelings of abandonment, rejection, left alone in horrible physical pain and nausea, terror. . . all the stuff I had dissociated from as a child. So that all the other ways I had of trying to cope in the world without feeling all my feelings meant that I had had a personality disorder. Year of "counseling" didn't help because it didn't get deep enough.

My guess is that you don’t like to be around others’ intense emotions because you are disconnected from, and can’t tolerate, your own intense emotions. I can’t tell subtle emotions very well either – it’s the same thing, if you’re cut off from your emotions then you don’t have access to them in “small” measure either. I’m getting better but it’s slow. And your anger/rage could be a “defense” against horrible, unbearable feelings of not counting (e.g., being left alone in a hospital plus multiple instances of being discounted, disrespected, humiliated, etc.) like I had. But recognizing that doesn’t mean that the cure is easy.

It IS possible. Just possibly extraordinarily difficult. And most of the shrinks I went to didn’t have a clue. And their not having a clue and “blaming” me and telling me to “get in touch with my feelings” and stuff like that they didn’t know what they were talking about – really sucks. Hurt me, held me back, damaged me more sometimes. Iatrogenic psychology. I finally learned how to avoid it but the damage and wasted years were extensive. And expensive, of course.

So . . . if you’re not acting out your angry thoughts, that’s good. Acting them out can cause problems for you directly as you know, as well as guilt, which if you are or get connected to your feelings then that can really, really hurt, too.

Try to find a good therapist, specialist in "tough stuff". Get away from those who make you feel put down -- you can talk to them once about it if you want to try -- maybe you can work things out with them and that would be good -- but if they don't get it then get out of their office.

Sucks that there’s no specialist hospital or institution or organization or anything. But so far as I know there isn’t.

Keep posting if that helps, don’t give up, good luck.

I was actually raised in a not so bad environment. I grew up with a single mom but we still have a very close relationship as it is. She's like the only person I actually truly love. She was overprotective though and a loner. I was an only child. I was actually raised in a pretty healthy environment only thing was I never had a male role model. But I never felt anything was missing really. I never really had any abandonment issues or anything either I came from a stable 1 parent family. But I never really had extreme feelings besides energy/adrenaline type of thing it's sorta like excitement but I remember it always being that way since I was like 3.

It's not that my parents did anything so wrong that led to me feeling abandoned and not counting. Things were just different back then, people routinely didn't feel their feelings, "sticks and stones will break my bones but words will never hurt me" was how people really coped, cutting off their feelings.

And sometimes parents' stuff can get passed down without their knowing or willing for it to. That was for me part of the problem. Also feeling the pain DID mean that I felt angry for awhile at parents whom I loved. That was difficult to deal with AND when I could finally own and feel all the hurt and the pain, then the anger went away. But my parents have now passed away and it's possible that had I gone through this when they were alive, then it could have threatened/changed my relationships with them in some ways. So . . . it's tough stuff is all I know. Wish there were easy answers.

Hi

I usually just get annoyd if some1 is going trugh intense feelings. Sometimes angry. I'm not really sure why. I try to keep my distance from ppl so i wouldnt have to witness those emotions.
Only exeption is my son and if i'm on a relationship. Those are only times i can cope with emotions. BUT if my current bf would say he loves me, i shut down -like. And if he says it "too often" I get angry as hell.

I cant dial with others emotions and cant relate. If some1 would cry, i tend to get annoyd. And at the end I try to leave. If I cany, I'll get angry, and blow. Maybe its becouse i cant feel myself, i just pretend - so why woulnd't other one do the same and just trieng to play me along?

I am that way sometimes. I used to get angry when my mom cried. If people are arguing around me I leave the area if possible. If I can't leave I get really anxious and upset. If a co-worker expresses sadness I pretend I don't see it happening.

yeah I totally agree.

How do intense emotions affect me?

I am indifferent, irritated, or amused.

I definitely do this I will avoid the fact that someone is crying until it's no denying it.