[puzzclar]

That's what I am. Its hard to accept. And the negative thinking with it is not helping. How do I let this go? Any ideas would be helpful.

[kaliope]

i think the question i would ask myself is...is this my responsibility? did i cause this? is it my job to take care of it?

most likely the answers will be no.

i have never forgotten ...well i have sort of forgotten...lol........but it was some kind of saying.......just because your yard is on fire, doesnt mean i have to ...this is the part i forgot...but i dont have to be in crisis just because you are........just because you planned poorly doesnt mean i have to suffer for it.....those types of things i keep in mind