[Framecode]

I'm not sure if this is the correct place for this. But I feel like I lie a lot. I've lied to just about everyone about my past. About having more experience with drugs than I have. I've been lying by omission to a girl I'm currently involved with. I haven't told her that I speak with my ex just about every day and have been for the past 6 years. I consider her to be one of my very best friends. However, I've even lied to her about my past. I feel like I keep lying because it's been perpetuated for so long. I don't know how to come clean or if that's even the best course of action. I don't know why I do this I just don't want to feel guilty anymore.

[Atypical_Disaster]

Why does lying make you feel guilty?

[Skeezyks]

Hello Framecode: I see this is your first post... so... welcome to PsychCentral... from the Skeezyks! I hope you find the time you spend here to be of benefit.

I don't have any relationships anymore where telling the truth, or lying, would really come up. But back when I did, years ago, I was disinclined to share personal information with anyone... which resulted in me telling a few lies from time-to-time.

It is difficult, once you've established relationships based on lies, to then turn around & become truthful. There's always the possibility that the person(s) you've lied to may take offense & this may damage your relationship. The problem, of course, is that the truth will out sooner or later. And it may come out in ways which you cannot control. This may be even more disruptive than coming clean now would be. You will just have to decide for yourself what course of action, or lack thereof, is best under the circumstances.

Beyond that, I do also think that the guilt you are feeling around this is of concern. I carry around allot of guilt for things I've done in years past. And I'm here to tell you that guilt can be corrosive. My personal view is that, to the extent one can avoid taking it on, it is all to the good. So if I were to be casting a vote here, I would vote for you to try to find some way of gently working the truth into at least your more significant relationships. My best wishes to you...