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Jan 04, 2009, 03:40 PM
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I'm only 15 and i took two personality tests and they both said different things. Heres some things about me, if it sounds like what youu have please tell me what it is. Thats if youu dont mind telling me.
- i'm quiet and dnt like to be centre of attention - i have only about 3 close friends, 2 of which i can tlk to but not about things like this. - i "Create" a fantasy life when i'm bored. - i dont have long relationships - i get nervous talking to new people or people in my year that i dont speak to often - i act more friendly than i am when talking to my friends' friends - i prefere keeping my emotions to myself, and ignore my own to help my other friends if theyre upset what's wrong with me? please help =[
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Jan 04, 2009, 05:14 PM
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I was diagnosed with BPD, Schizoeffective disorder 16 years ago and Bipolar last year. I am not sure that you have a personality disorder per se. You would need to be assessed by a competent psychiatrist over a period of time for that but you are definitely struggling with your sense of self and your acceptance of your identity and if you can get help sooner than later it can make the world of difference. As for personality tests, I would approach them with caution as they may be partially true but without a professional to analyse them with you and help you with strategies, they can make you feel worse. I did one a couple of weeks ago and it was a shocking result but I had a good laugh but only because I am mostly comfortable with myself. You are not alone, honey and you are too young to be suffering this much. I wish I had had the bravery and the resources to ask for help at 15 and you definitely have the bravery just by posting on this forum and asking for help. You have just overcome the hardest part. I don't know what your family situation is like or what crisis helplines you have where you are but a list of your possible support network is a good place to start. Even if it is 1 person or organisation! You do have the power to start to turn things around even if you feel completely overwhelmed and we are all here to help if we can. Stop being so hard on yourself and spend the time seeking some clarity and acceptance of your self. I am sure that you are a good person, loyal friend and you are courageous. U CAN DO IT! Good luck and keep us posted.
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Jan 04, 2009, 07:59 PM
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Lots of people don't have long relationships in HS because you are changing a lot. Maybe you are an introverted personality type. That is not necessarily negative. If I had to make just one observation, I would say that you are not very trusting of people, and I would also say that this might be something in connection with your family. Three close friends are great. Why do you think that you need more? Do you want more, or do you just think that you aren't "normal"? I suggest that you talk to a school counselor that you feel that you can trust about how you are feeling. Tell them what you told us here |
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Jan 04, 2009, 08:45 PM
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The good news is, at 15, nothing is set in stone. You might have traits that suggest a personality disorder, but a lot of those traits are pretty common in teenagers, and you are still learning the skills and forming your personality. So, you may be struggling now, but if you can identify what you are struggling with (and it doesn't have to be an official disorder - I mean to identify things that bother you or that you would like to change), with a bit of help, you can change and you won't have to develop a personality disorder or live with problems like that or try to change them as an adult, when change is a bit harder to accomplish.
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Jan 06, 2009, 04:55 AM
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bethany,
at 15 most people are unhappy and uncertain at least a good part of the time. adolescence is hard because so much is changing and despite any books or movies, i feel high school is something most people survive in, not thrive in! it is normal to be introspective at this time and curious about yourself and what you are becoming. it would be wise to be careful in what you read and believe - especially if it affects how you feel about yourself. there is a super-abundance of articles in magazines and on the net and they can mislead you by not giving the "whole" picture. we all have flaws, but as a teen they can seem so awful and then a few years later you will look back and see they were not such a big deal. nothing you described sounded very bad to me and my most sincere advice to you is to be patient with yourself. if you do feel something is really wrong, or things are bothering you which you did not feel able to tell us online, then seek out an adult you can trust and ask for some help. i could not get help in my family as a teen, there were problems there with abuse. i felt desperate and suicidal at age 18, i looked around for help from friends (no good there my friends were clueless and did not take me seriously), college counseling office (they recommended i become an english tutor-no kidding and not a help). finally, i encountered help from a spiritual source (God) though we don't discuss that on the forum. this help has been highly beneficial to me and i have also finally gotten some good therapy as well. sometimes we have to keep looking to find what we really need. bethany, you are really intelligent and aware, give yourself some applause for seeking information and help when you had questions. please do not be too hard on yourself, you are doing a good job and will be able to figure things out, i really believe. leslie
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Jan 06, 2009, 05:44 AM
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Dear Bethany
It sounds a bit like me when I was your age, except that I loved to be the centre of attention and I was much less considerate of the feelings of others than you seemed to be. High school is not a very happy for many people - I certainly wouldn't like to have to be a teenager again. From the way you describe yourself, you sound perfectly normal. Don't give way to the temptation to keep taking lots of personality tests and other tests online they are totally unscientific, for a start (you might as well just read your horoscope), and they aggravate every typical teen's tendency to spend hours in critical self-examination. I am nearly fifty now, and not everything in my life has gone well, but some things have, and I've learnt that the secret to happiness is to keep busy with things that you enjoy, and forget about yourself as much as possible. And don't overlook the possibility that you may have a friend closer to home. I don't know your parents, obviously, so this suggestion may be a non-starter - but have you ever tried talking to them about your feelings and thoughts? Parents can be very annoying with their need to control things and fix things for you, but they also love you and are guaranteed to be interested in everything you have to say. And you might find they know a thing or two about this world. Good luck, sweetie - be true to yourself and have a wonderful life Clio |
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