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Location: brooklyn, ny
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Dec 05, 2003 at 06:59 PM
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Hi everyone,
This is a first for me. I am seriously depressed right now. I had a bad accident at work in august of this year. I work construction and I was crushed under a piece of equipment. My pelvis was snapped in half, my lower back broken, torn abdominals and nerve damage. I was put back together with plates and screws in a 5 hour surgery. I was in the hospital for a month. I'm not paralyzed but I am in alot of pain and I was told that will have chronic pain and problems. Obviously, I am not working now. I just don't know what to do with myself. I don't sleep well, I am having anxiety attacks and I'm seriously depressed. I used to identify myself by being this big strong guy. Now, I am very weak (physically and mentally). I don't know how to cope with this. I am seeing a psychiatrist, but it isn't doing much for me. On top of all these feelings, I am very lonely. Before, I had work to fill my days. Now what do I do? I have all this time and I need some human contact. Thanks for listening.. |
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Location: Florida
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Dec 05, 2003 at 07:04 PM
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{{{{geo}}}} that must be hard...going from whats considered a very "strong,masculaine" job which, as you said, occupied time as well and made you feel worthwhile to having to deal with this injury. Your psych recommend anything to treat the depression and anxiety?
Maybe invite friends over more often? Spend more time with g/f or wife in fun, but less physical things that dont hurt too much? Either way you'll get alot of good, caring "human" contact here  Serenity |
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Location: brooklyn, ny
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Dec 05, 2003 at 07:14 PM
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Hi, and thanks for the reply. I am taking an antidepressant( Remeron )and anti anxiety med ( Xanax ). I don't really like the idea of being on meds, but I know I am seriously depressed. To add to my situation I don't have a wife or g/f or kids and my family is not in this area. So I am really lonely with alot of time on my hands.
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Location: Florida
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Dec 05, 2003 at 07:28 PM
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I can understand the lonliness part...and I also have severe depression and panic disorder which gives me panic and anxiety attacks.
Anyon you used to work with you enjoy "hanging out with"? You enjoy playign cards? Maybe start a poker night or something liek that with "the guys"? or even "gals " I firmly despise meds myself so I can also relate there but sometimes its the only thing that keeps the tiny bit of sanity we have left. I used to be on Paxil for the depression and panic disorder as well as xananx for the rough spells but not a regular daily dosage....It takes me a month "weaning" into the paxil Im so sensitive to meds when most people take what, a week? so trust me I understand. Are you satisfied with "your" psych Dr or it jsut doesnt seem to help? You could look into another therapist if you arent comofrtable with them? Well figure out something for ya just be patient ...I knwo it's hard.What part of this great big world you from anyway? |
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Dec 05, 2003 at 11:51 PM
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Thanks for the understanding and encouragement. I am from Brooklyn, New York, by the way. It is strange living in such a big city and feeling totally alone. To be honest, I wasn't so happy before my accident either. Now I am a mess. I am also kind of shy, so I am not very outgoing. I have a few friends, but they are busy with work and family etc. I don't have either. I feel like I'm just being a big baby sometimes and feeling sorry for myself. There are so many out there in worse situations than me. But I still can't shake the depression. I need something in my life to give it some meaning, you know what I mean?
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Location: Kingston Ontario, Canada
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Dec 05, 2003 at 11:54 PM
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Welcome to this fourm,
Sorry to hear all that you have gone through and are going through. It sounds reaaly hard, you have come to a great place there are great people here and I know I have come to really miss being here when I have otherthings to do. I have only been here almost a month and like you I don't have much family close by, and most of my friends live far away. It sounds like you made the right choice to get help, but make sure it is someone who you feel comfortable wth and can really help. Take care and keep posting |
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Dec 06, 2003 at 08:19 AM
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Hi geo. I am fairly new here myself. Now, I don't know what I would do without this place. There are some very loving and caring people here. I hope you will keep coming and maybe it will help ease your loneliness some. I know it does mine and I'm at home most of the time. I'm sorry for all the pain that you are going through.
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Dec 06, 2003 at 11:18 AM
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Yeah....I know what you mean
 As a friend has told me so many times...."It's amazing in a world over a billion people, we can still be lonely"...so very true.I went to the first Yankees game after the attacks of 9/11...what a city. It was overwhelming but incredible. I understand how other people seem pretty busy at this time of year especially....mayeb a once a week scheduled get together is something they would look forward to too!!(Like the card night) Doesnt hurt to try right? Or a casual holiday get together before Christmas? with friends....talk...wrap presents....listen to music....watch a movie....have easy munchies.... I dunno...something will work out here. I still like the weekly card game thing. Im thinking with all the stress of the Holidays your friends would also welcome a night of fun and friends, no? |
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Dec 07, 2003 at 10:52 PM
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Hi and welcome! I'm glad you found this place. There is a lot of friendly people here. It's always nice to meet new people. I hope you will found it helpful and you will stay around.
You can also try the chatroom if you didn't already. Take good care! forgoten |
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