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Mar 21, 2011, 03:11 PM
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Since leaving my ex (who was in the medical field) who tried to kill me then stalked me for some time afterwards I have been extremely cautious about my home address. Everywhere I have been I have had a P.O. Box so no one can find out where I live. Currently only 2 of my friends know where I live. A few places require you to give them your home address and will not accept your P.O. Box, such as some medical related places. Yesterday I had a casual conversation with a person from one of these establishments and said how I was happy that I was having a mowing company coming out. He said he was going to take my address from the data base and come out and mow my lawn as a suprise. I have been freaking out ever since. Here I have been taking every precaution I can to prevent people from knowing where I live and now someone is saying they are going to use my medical information to find out where I live. I'm so afraid!!!! I have to go to this place of business once a month and today is one of those days. I couldn't sleep, and I'm shaking. I have not called my T outside of making my regular appointments but if she was here I would have called her last night. That's how scared I am.
Sorry to bother ya'll, but I just had to get this out. A
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Mar 21, 2011, 03:21 PM
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I would still call T, I have had them return calls from conferences. Sorry that their remark triggered you.My guess is the person who made the remark had NO idea how what they were saying would impact you.
Also, they may not really be able to get at your info. My friends build databases like the ones used to track medical files and the like. There are all different levels of security. So even though you may have a password to access the database that doesn't mean that you can get to personal information like addresses. different passwords give you access to different things.
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Mar 21, 2011, 09:23 PM
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Thanks for answering.
Unfortunately he does have access to it. He's already called my home before on his work related business. I tried to change the address to my mailing address today with one of the other people at the place, but due to law, they are required to have my home address on file. He walked up as I was doing this and gave me a strange look. I've been sick to my stomach ever since. Ativan had been my friend today. Hardly ever use it, but today is one of those days. I am going to see what happens when I call my T's number. Maybe she has an alternate on the voice mail. I've never needed one before so we didn't even discuss it this time. Next time she leaves I'll make sure it happens. A
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Here's a helpful technique for managing stress during difficult times: First, get one of those glass snow domes with a happy little snowman and an idylllic, peaceful winter scene....... Next, get a hammer..... "Slumps are like a soft bed. They're easy to get into and hard to get out of." Johnny Bench |
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Mar 21, 2011, 09:32 PM
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did you tell him no thanks my address is suposed to remain private?
I understand if u didnt. Can you call someone in that company higher up than him and report this. It does not sound like good practice for the company. Call ur t. Can you go away for a little while stay with a friend? Are you scared of this man? Or was he beining friendly? (in a completely missguided way?) |
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Mar 22, 2011, 04:34 AM
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I did tell him no. I even tried politely by saying at first that "you wouldn't betray my privacy like that by doing that would you?" He kept on about how he coud do it cheaper he would just show up. I told him no several times. Finally even he said that he knew he could be fired for getting my address that way. I know he was just trying to be friendly but you don't get peoples info that way or threaten too. If they want you to know where you live they tell you. That's what HIPPA is all about. I've been dreading someone doing this for years and now I have this threat of someone doing it and I can't help it. It's like my fear has been realized. Now not only is this going to happen with this guy but it even makes it more of a real possibilty that my ex can find me this way as well.
A
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Here's a helpful technique for managing stress during difficult times: First, get one of those glass snow domes with a happy little snowman and an idylllic, peaceful winter scene....... Next, get a hammer..... "Slumps are like a soft bed. They're easy to get into and hard to get out of." Johnny Bench |
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Mar 22, 2011, 07:44 AM
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i understand ur fear.
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Mar 22, 2011, 08:22 AM
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I would wonder why he is so persistent. I would tell him is violating my privacy, and if necessary I would call the police (doesn't mean you have to do it), but letting him know this is a serious breach of boundaries, etc.....is important.
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Mar 22, 2011, 08:46 AM
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I would definitely go up higher and explain to someone in human resources or your supervisor (if you trust them) and let them know what is going on.
This sounds like an abuse of authority or abuse of obtaining confidential records for personal means and is not allowed in the work field. A person should not have to be afraid of their personal information being obtained by the wrong person. Please take good care of yourself and report this so that you no longer feel that you are a victim of others bullying, stalking, and other types of abuse. And in closing, you do have the right to call your therapist and if they can't return the call, there may be someone on call (if they have an office or answering service). I am sorry you are going through this. You will get through this one day at a time, maybe one minute at a time, but you will survive! Sun |
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Mar 23, 2011, 10:37 AM
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There are programs in some states that have address confidentuality programs for victims of domestic abuse and/or stalking... Advocates in domestic abuse programs know more about said programs than most T's do... If you haven't contacted one about your fears of being found, It would be a good idea... good luck to you... I hope you stay safe...
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Mar 23, 2011, 07:07 PM
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Dude's pushing it. I would talk to his boss and get this to stop. Not that I think he's necessasrily scary, but he is pushing it.
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Mar 29, 2011, 06:54 AM
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Here's a helpful technique for managing stress during difficult times: First, get one of those glass snow domes with a happy little snowman and an idylllic, peaceful winter scene....... Next, get a hammer..... "Slumps are like a soft bed. They're easy to get into and hard to get out of." Johnny Bench |
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Mar 29, 2011, 06:56 AM
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Here's a helpful technique for managing stress during difficult times: First, get one of those glass snow domes with a happy little snowman and an idylllic, peaceful winter scene....... Next, get a hammer..... "Slumps are like a soft bed. They're easy to get into and hard to get out of." Johnny Bench |
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Mar 29, 2011, 07:01 AM
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Thanks for your words of support. I did try to call my t twice. She will be back later this week. I tried to change the address but according to my states law it is required to be there. but he saw what I was doing and realized that I wasn't accepting what he did. He hasn't tried to contact me since. I think he knows he's in a lot of trouble. I've also looked at getting a home security sytem since unfortunately there are a few places by law your home address needs to be. I've been doing what I can and taking it day by day. I appreicate your support. A
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Here's a helpful technique for managing stress during difficult times: First, get one of those glass snow domes with a happy little snowman and an idylllic, peaceful winter scene....... Next, get a hammer..... "Slumps are like a soft bed. They're easy to get into and hard to get out of." Johnny Bench |
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Mar 29, 2011, 07:11 AM
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Here's a helpful technique for managing stress during difficult times: First, get one of those glass snow domes with a happy little snowman and an idylllic, peaceful winter scene....... Next, get a hammer..... "Slumps are like a soft bed. They're easy to get into and hard to get out of." Johnny Bench |
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Mar 29, 2011, 07:15 AM
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Here's a helpful technique for managing stress during difficult times: First, get one of those glass snow domes with a happy little snowman and an idylllic, peaceful winter scene....... Next, get a hammer..... "Slumps are like a soft bed. They're easy to get into and hard to get out of." Johnny Bench |
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Mar 30, 2011, 02:39 AM
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hope everything stays safe. Can you borrow a big dog?
No id say you are right and he will leave you alone. Xxx |
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Mar 30, 2011, 02:40 AM
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p.s. You know you should be proud? You handled this situation really well.
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Mar 30, 2011, 02:32 PM
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I agree with rapid... You should be very proud of the way you handled a very scary situation!
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