[myponyjoey]

There's this kid in my English class. In 6th and 7th grade he used to touch me...u name it he touched it...or at least tried. Last year he talked about it all the time and how he was going to touch me again. This year he asked if i remember when he "practically raped" me and also when he molested me....i have to sit next to him and i find myself bracing, flinching and stiffening with every move he makes. He grabbed my butt the other day because i was ignoring him...i told myself that i would talk to a counselor this year and talk about how we could work out a possible schedule for next year in which we wouldn't share classes but every time i try i tell myself its stupid and i shouldn't dwell on it...i just cant bring myself to tell an adult but i know i have to do something. I have dreams about it and it weighs on my mind alot. I cant hug my guy friends because once he apologized and hugged me but then grabbed my butt. I didn't wear anything fitted to school until two months ago because i was afraid i would draw his attention. I don't know what to do:/

[Open Eyes]

(((myponyjoey))),

I see you are a new member to PC, welcome. I am sorry that you are being "harassed" by someone like this and you are feeling so helpless. You don't have to put up with this harassment, you can talk to the teacher and have your seat changed, the teacher "will" understand your concern and "will" help to remove you from having to sit next to this "intrusive" student.

You should never be ashamed if someone is harassing you, never tell yourself that you "have to take it" either. You have to learn to "take the power" and stand up to people who are "bullies, or disrespect you". Being "nice" to a bully only gives them permission to continue to be a bully. And showing a bully you are afraid of him also gives him permission to continue bullying you because they are the kind of people that like to feel "power" over others but do it in "unhealthy ways".

Do not allow yourself to be exposed to this person anymore, make it a point to speak up and remove yourself from the situation.

(((HUGS)))
Open Eyes