A few nights ago, my husband triggered me terribly by doing something very playful. It was by far the strongest reaction he has ever seen and I have ever experienced. It's been 2 days and I can still hardly let him touch me even though he did nothing wrong. I feel terrible. I told him that I have been struggling since that night, because I am working hard on being open with him, but now I feel even worse. He understands the logic behind my reaction, and has apologized repeatedly, but I suspect he is very angry, probably not at me, but at the situation. However, I am trying not to take it personally but am drowning in a shame storm. Seeing my therapist Monday.

Any thoughts or suggestions?

[tinyrabbit]

I don't know about you but I have a tendency to assume people are angry when they're not. I don't think you need to worry about your husband being angry, or to feel bad for being triggered - it wasn't your fault.

I suggest you keep talking, and stop trying to force yourself to be touched - give it time and be gentle with yourself.

Yes, I do have that tendency (to assume people are mad at me.) Amazingly enough, since I said the words out loud to him, I think the problem is resolving itself MUCH faster than if I had just kept it to myself and let things fester.