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#41
I wouldn't necessarily recommend drinking again, haha, but I know what you mean. My fiance's the only one who knows the extent of what I've been through, as well. Sometimes, you only really need that one person and that's okay. Maybe you will connect with a therapist, maybe you won't; but it's great that you have your husband.
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Wow!! Reading your post was like reading "me" COMPLETELY!! My friend that I started out sharing what was going through, is in a leadership position in the church I previously attended. She also has a psychology degree. Bad mistake on my part! Our friendship is on extremely shaky ground right now. She is very controlling and struggles with rejection. That makes it hard for me to take a break from her. I have quit opening up to her. That has offended her and I can feel it. I really could go on about this. I didn't know better when I was opening up with her and my heart is sad that it has turned out the way it has. It could be though, that as parts of me have been healed and become stronger, that I am seeing clearly. Thank you for posting that!! __________________ "What is denied, cannot be healed." - Brennan Manning "Hope knows that if great trials are avoided, great deeds remain undone and the possibility of growth into greatness of soul is aborted." - Brennan Manning |
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#43
I myself blog about my trauma in a sealed/private/free blog.
I am in the unique sitation were my tramatic abuse was witnessed by an outside source. This person also received their own amount of trauma too, but nothing compared. This person is very strong-willed however, is also a couple decades older than me. We would (several times a day) discuss the latest (it was ongoing abuse for almost two years) to a point it was theraputic, but then they themselves would talk down to me, also have strong points of view on how next to proceed, etc. (especially after I started retreating as it was really making me ill) it ended up being more of a psychic vampire type situation. Massive energy drain. Not only am I dealing with an extremely abusive situation, but also being drained and somewhat abused by a witness. Too much. Talking can often times back-fire outside of a safe and professional type setting. I would recommend writing details of your situation down in a safe place where it can't be found, and only sharing with professionals whose job it is to help you heal. Stay safe everyone. |
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#44
Nope. It has only irritated and frustrated life. Period.
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#45
Yes, I think it helped me most just talking about it all on here. I really didn't even go into al the details, but just the basics has lifted a lot of the anxiety about it off my chest.
I had never talked much about it IRL. Some of my closest friends said they had no idea when I told them recently. I'd say talking to the friends was not helpful. I was disappointed at their lack of empathy and lack of protectiveness. I'm not sorry I told them though. I'm sure they didn't give it another thought. People really don't care, they're all caught up in their own stuff. But, it helped me more to write and post it here, than even at a therapists. I feel like I just needed to write about it. __________________ "And don't say it hasn't been a little slice of heaven, 'cause it hasn't!" . About Me--T |
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I remember commenting in passing to new friends I made here after moving 2100 miles away to where i didn't know anyone but made friends. It was interesting a few years later when a topic came up where I shared a little about what I went through, they were amazed at what I had lived through & things like that do happen & how scary it was as if I had never said anything before. The good thing is that the new people in my life hadn't defined me by what I had gone through.
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#47
For a long time, I refused to talk to anyone about anything that had happened. Most people didn't (and still don't) even know anything happened and I didn't think they would have believed me. It hurt too much. I internalized everything, didn't allow myself to feel anything about it, no matter how badly I needed it. As you can imagine, that took an overwhelming toll on my physical and emotional wellbeing. It got to the point where my mental health was severely deteriorating (yes, even worse than before).
Talking to the one person I trusted... Finally getting out things I'd been keeping inside for years... It likely saved my life. I won't lie, it was one of the most difficult things I've ever done. The memories and emotions were so intense, so raw and painful... but it was one of the best and most powerful things I could have done for myself. In short, yes, in my particular case it helped a great deal. It still does on my bad days. Of course, everyone is different, and being ready to talk about it is a big key. |
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