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Jun 04, 2015, 10:27 PM
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I often worry that I'll get triggered on a date. Dating is already an anxiety-producing event. Have you ever been triggered on a date? What happened? How did you control it, or did you? Did you have to excuse yourself or go home? How did your date respond? Are there any tips/tricks you can give me?
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Jun 05, 2015, 10:52 PM
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Hi CosmicRose
Breathe, and enjoy the process, be yourself and have fun, let the pressure evaporate out of your body. Excuse yourself if you still feel overwhelmed. Keep things simple and honor yourself first, not last. Make a plan: date goes well, or date just isn't going too well, either way you win. An exit plan i used was to have my friend call me to check in. Yes, there were times i did go home...because of self care. Is this a first date?
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Jun 06, 2015, 11:03 AM
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I don't know if it's an option to tell your date you might have issues. I told my partner before we went out that I have issues with touching because of past abuse and that I have triggers. He's really supportive and patient about it.
I guess I'm asking if it's an option, because I wanted to know now rather than later if he could handle it. But as JadeAmethyst said, be mindful if you start feel overwhelmed. Take care of yourself first and make a plan of action if things get to be difficult. |
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Jun 06, 2015, 03:44 PM
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I haven't dated in ages, so this advice is all theoretical! But I would suspect that scheduling shorter dates at first might be helpful--ie coffee dates, and specifying an end time: "I have an appointment after this, so I have to leave by 5." After you feel more comfortable with the person, if you aren't ready to disclose, you could just say you're not feeling well and need to cut things short (all true).
You're awesome for taking this step! |
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Jun 06, 2015, 06:25 PM
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Honestly, I don't know if I would tell anyone about PTSD. Personal physical space is a natural boundary. You are in control of your own body. My perspective: someone on a first date that gives too much information...is a red flag....IMHO.
Better safe and self respectful at the same time. IDK?
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