[Angelwngs25]

Ok, so I realized that there are people out there that practically scream when they talk. I realized my best friend screaming at me triggered me because my dad used to scream at me from the time I was a baby until I turned 18.

Possible trigger:

He also beat the living hell out of me and that included using the belt.

My friend was screaming at me like on Monday about something that had nothing to do with me. I felt like I was about to kill him because he triggered me so much and it brought back from when I was a kid and I saw my friend as being my dad. He wasn't that he looked anything like my dad he reminded me of my dad. I was on the verge of tears from his screaming and I wanted to hurt him, but I didn't. I was trying very hard to control myself and not think about the bad things my dad did to me.

Possible trigger:

And no he didn't sexual abuse me as far as I know. But I could just not be remembering it right now or maybe even ever.

. But I really wish I could not be triggered by that. And on top of it all I was scared he was going to Physically hurt me because well the guy is Schizophrenic. How do I avoid triggers?

[ensconce]

Personally I try to avoid people in general, when someone triggers me I get just as angry as you described above. I try to avoid people that trigger me or if its not possible to avoid them I try to be careful of what I say or talk about so nothing leads to things that can trigger me.

Are you in regular therapy to work on healthy coping and interpersonal skills?

[Fuzzybear]

[Shaly78]

I agree, keep yourself away from the person. If you have to deal with the person, request what you don't want to deal with from that person. Remove yourself from the room as soon as possible. Repeat what is said if there is no escape in a safer way, kind of like damage control to yourself. Positive affirmation spoken to yourself can also be helpful.

[Angelwngs25]

Originally Posted by lolagrace

Are you in regular therapy to work on healthy coping and interpersonal skills?

I've been trying to get into one on one therapy since the beginning of March.

[BlueEyedMama]

I avoid basements and dark places, I avoid people that are angry a lot for anger scares me, I avoid people who drink so much they smell like stale beer and cigs, and most of all I avoid the state where my abuser now lives. Sometimes I can't avoid a trigger but therapy helps with learning how to cope with that.

I wish you the best and hope that you can finally get into therapy soon waiting since March is a long time. *hugs*