[Sevensong]

This kook is not only victim-blaming after having us read hideously triggering materials, she regularly makes all kinds of blind, undefended - and indefensible - assertions about what women are, what men are, what marriage is and should be, how individuals should live their lives, that marriage is between a man and a woman and PERMANENT, no matter WHAT...

She even says that marriage is about commitment and not love, and explicitly, openly said that she "married under duress" and recommends arranged marriage. (She's a foreigner, not that that's a problem. I don't believe for a second that most people of her culture of origin could be anything like this, morally or psychologically.) The way she talks, she was basically a prostitute to her "husband," and now aggressively promotes ideas to the end that all women should be.

She says liberalism is weakening the West (seriously), and that Islam will take over. She says we need to defend ourselves culturally with a "strong" traditionalist religion (a pseudo-Catholicism that she herself invented, because I know for a fact from studying its history that not even the Catholic Church was ever as draconian as she's painting it to be...she just wants to create an "official," authoritative fallback to support her own EVIL insanity). So in other words, she says the West/America needs to prostitute itself to one oppressive, evil, backward power in order to "protect" itself from another one - which she says Islam is, not in so many words, but very clearly nonetheless.

Seriously??? What century is this? And where do I go to get some kind of help against this freak? I went to counseling, but since it was an emergency walk-in, I got an intern who was wonderful but had no idea about recourse. I emailed the prof, a long email clearly showing how upset I am. I reined myself in the best I could, but I'm a little concerned it was too inflamed. I'm going to Disability Resources to see about accommodation, since I've been diagnosed with PTSD. I need this class to graduate in May, so I'll need to finish it out. I walked out of class today in the middle of her evil ranting, so I'm scared on that account, too. I don't want to hurt my grade, even though I've already been accepted into several MA programs. I absolutely need to pass the class to graduate, though.

Thanks for reading, and for any support or advice you can offer. I'm at the end of my rope with this hideous creature.

[DesigningWoman]

Yes, that is bad. I can totally understand you being triggered. My advice would be go to disability resources. They might not be able to assist in this but if you want to move it up to cover your bases. If you have an advisor in the department you trust, you might want to ask for advice on how to best proceed. If not, you may end up needing to speak to the department chairman, dean of the college, or dean of students.
I totally see your point. This is awful. However you are very close to the end of being in her presence. May is so close. Then, You will get your degree and slam that door. If you are passing the class, do you think you can make it? Only you know what you can take. But you are close to the end. Realistically Even if you raise holy heck with higher ups, there is so little time left, it might not accomplish anything for you.
If you do decide to take it to the Uni or college administration, I would go flat out for getting out of class attendance. Basically do all the work, but be let out of an mandatory attending of lecture. Again with the little time left, they can probably can't switch you to another prof or set up an independent study. Also you are graduating so forget trying to get her fired or anything. In higher Ed if she's tenured it's insanely difficult to nearly impossible.
Take care of yourself. You come first in this.
It's a horrible situation, but a finite one. It will end.
Hugs

[sriracha]

Agreed with DesigningWoman. Tell anyone of authority that you can, and do go to Disability Services, they may be able to help you. Even though you are leaving soon, she will continue to do this and might hurt others the same way she has hurt you. There are so many inappropriate things here. Insisting on a religion, misogynist and sexist views, denying that there are many reasons to get married, so much is wrong with what she is saying.

[Sevensong]

I went to Disability Resources and made an appt. I am passing, I actually aced the midterm - and I have a 4.0 cumulative GPA which I've put myself through hell to keep as I've fought an invisible battle with PTSD + for the last several years. I would be livid if I lost that over this.

My counselor also said today that she'll gladly provide documentation. I was so relieved to be able to talk her! It was tremendously validating. Sanity! Sane perspectives after insane hate are invaluable.

On my counselor's suggestion, I also went to student advocacy and it looks like they'll be able to do something, at least to get me accommodation. They're also saying independent study of some kind instead of attending the lectures. That's far more triggering than the reading, though the last couple have been extremely disturbing, misogynistic in hideous ways. Still, I made myself finish them, and if I can do that, there's no way I'm letting this dragon in heels derail me in any way. If I can just do the reading and some kind of writing assignment or something - I've never done independent study, I have no idea how it works - and still graduate with a fair grade, I know I can do it. Being bombarded by her filth every class period, especially listening to her incite the sheeple in the class to echo her hate...it's too much.

[1976kitchenfloor]

Originally Posted by Sevensong

This kook is not only victim-blaming after having us read hideously triggering materials, she regularly makes all kinds of blind, undefended - and indefensible - assertions about what women are, what men are, what marriage is and should be, how individuals should live their lives, that marriage is between a man and a woman and PERMANENT, no matter WHAT...

She even says that marriage is about commitment and not love, and explicitly, openly said that she "married under duress" and recommends arranged marriage. (She's a foreigner, not that that's a problem. I don't believe for a second that most people of her culture of origin could be anything like this, morally or psychologically.) The way she talks, she was basically a prostitute to her "husband," and now aggressively promotes ideas to the end that all women should be.

She says liberalism is weakening the West (seriously), and that Islam will take over. She says we need to defend ourselves culturally with a "strong" traditionalist religion (a pseudo-Catholicism that she herself invented, because I know for a fact from studying its history that not even the Catholic Church was ever as draconian as she's painting it to be...she just wants to create an "official," authoritative fallback to support her own EVIL insanity). So in other words, she says the West/America needs to prostitute itself to one oppressive, evil, backward power in order to "protect" itself from another one - which she says Islam is, not in so many words, but very clearly nonetheless.

Seriously??? What century is this? And where do I go to get some kind of help against this freak? I went to counseling, but since it was an emergency walk-in, I got an intern who was wonderful but had no idea about recourse. I emailed the prof, a long email clearly showing how upset I am. I reined myself in the best I could, but I'm a little concerned it was too inflamed. I'm going to Disability Resources to see about accommodation, since I've been diagnosed with PTSD. I need this class to graduate in May, so I'll need to finish it out. I walked out of class today in the middle of her evil ranting, so I'm scared on that account, too. I don't want to hurt my grade, even though I've already been accepted into several MA programs. I absolutely need to pass the class to graduate, though.

Thanks for reading, and for any support or advice you can offer. I'm at the end of my rope with this hideous creature.

Hello. You are in quite a situation. I feel for you. I think my head would explode if I had to sit quietly through that sort of talk.
I send you hugs and good vibes. Congratulations on your grade point average--which is nicely above average! Remember, as they say, this too shall pass. You wont have to listen to this forever Youll be off to grad school!

[Sevensong]

Thanks, everyone. I'm glad this is moving forward at least. She's agreed to meet with me on Monday after my other appointments, but she didn't address anything I said in the emails, or even that she would be willing to work with the independent study arrangement.

I will be so glad to leave all this behind! I keep telling myself there are only three weeks of classes left, and then finals, and then I graduate. And I can head off to greener pastures for grad school!

[DesigningWoman]

Exactly. Keep focused on your goal, graduation. It is so close. You can do this!

[Sevensong]

Thank you! That's what my counselor said today, too. I just need to focus on graduating and moving on from this. She gave me some good advice about how to steer the conversation with the prof today. She said I don't have to answer questions about how I'm being triggered, since that's tantamount to the prof asking how I'm traumatized, which she doesn't need to know. The counselor also said emphatically that I need to focus on what I need - accommodations to pass the class - and providing documentation and working on moving forward to get through the rest of the class, and NOT on everything that is wrong with her viewpoints and how she's (not) teaching the class. This is not the time or space for that.

This appt really helped put things in perspective and seem much more manageable, less intimidating. It will help me to stay on point, even if the prof tries to drag me off, which I've suspected she will. She has an insatiable need to be right, and a slippery tongue. But I need to just stay on point and address what needs to be addressed so I can pass this class. The counselor also reminded me that I can just leave the room if necessary, which I hope I don't have to.

[Sevensong]

So thankfully the school is taking it seriously. I've met with disability resources as well as student advocacy, and the office of equity has contacted me to schedule an appt. The top people at each office have taken a concern in the matter, and it's clear that they're duly interested and alarmed. It was such a grounding experience to meet with them - seeing the sane, conscious responses of normal people. Genuinely crazy/evil people have a way of making you doubt your own sanity after a while, so after sitting through this prof's bilge for most of the semester, it had a wonderful effect of reorienting me to reality. They recognized that I'm not some kind of troublemaker or "revolutionary" as the prof describes people with my positions; I'm a top-performing student who's already gotten into top master's programs, and is about to graduate summa cum laude after doing honor to this university in multiple ways. I'm so glad that I decided to pursue this; it has really done wonders to restore my own sense of health, power, control over my own life - and sanity!

[1976kitchenfloor]

Yes Yes Yes!

[Calico_91]

She sounds like a real headcase and an absolutely miserable person. She wants everyone else around her to be miserable too.