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Default Jan 01, 2018 at 05:46 AM
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Telling somebody they can't be unhappy because others have it worse is like telling somebody they can't be happy because others have it better. Makes no sense either way.
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Default Jan 04, 2018 at 08:09 PM
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That sometimes after trauma people can end up with irrational fears and afraid of the people around them. Even if they haven't hurt them. It doesn't have to be a personal thing.

I was terrified of my dad touching me after my initial abuse even though he would never hurt anyone and never gave me any reason to fear him. I feel so guilty for how I must have made him feel. Now I'm making my fiance feel the same way and I feel like ****.
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Default Jan 25, 2018 at 05:52 PM
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UGH.

I think I said this before but that PTSD cannot be caused by trivial things.It really irks me when people claim to have it over something upsetting.Trauma and something upsetting are in no way the same thing.It's so invalidating and downplays just how serious true PTSD is.

*sorry,was just upset by a post throwing the term around again*
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Default Jan 26, 2018 at 12:13 PM
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I understand.

I used the falling down the stairs analogy in an earlier post. That's learning from experience, which isn't the same thing as having PTSD.

I was permanently injured in a car accident. Years later, I walk with a cane, and will for the rest of my life. We were T-boned on the passenger side. Now any time I glimpse the slightest motion out the passenger side window, I can't control a startle reflex. There WILL be a jump and a gasp. That's PTSD. (And the car accident isn't all that caused it. There are other factors too.)
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Default Jan 26, 2018 at 01:59 PM
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That some people with PTSD do not respond to pharmaceutical drugs the same way others with PTSD do. Some of us are treatment resistant, despite our determination and perseverance.
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Default Jan 26, 2018 at 07:00 PM
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I just got triggered today. It was bad. My husband accidentally put me in a bad situation that was traumatic. It was real and brought a me back to a situation from childhood when I was scared . This was traumatic for me to be in the situation and deal with the overwhelming memories. Hard for us to understand the painfulness of it.
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Default Feb 10, 2018 at 03:53 PM
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Thank you all so much for offering your perspective. This has helped me to understand a lot. <3 <3
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Default Feb 13, 2018 at 09:52 AM
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i wish people would not say "that's years ago- just get over it and move on" i would if i could

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Default Feb 13, 2018 at 03:48 PM
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Just because some treatment will work for some people with PTSD, doesn't mean it would work for *all* people with PTSD.
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Default Feb 13, 2018 at 09:26 PM
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i wish people would not say "that's years ago- just get over it and move on" i would if i could
Omg,me too.I have heard that one quite a few times from people.

One person told me to just bury all the stuff from my childhood.
Another said just stop thinking about it.
Another said just let it go.
Another asked "why do you let it bother you?"

They just simply don't understand,do they?
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Default Feb 15, 2018 at 06:14 PM
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That this illnes is a "CHOICE". i texted my brother that I was living in a homeless shelter and his response was "I'm praying for your recovery". I promptly informed him PTSD is not an addiction...but an illness. I'm so angry that my family considers this to be a choice. NO ONE would "choose" this illness.
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That this illnes is a "CHOICE". i texted my brother that I was living in a homeless shelter and his response was "I'm praying for your recovery". I promptly informed him PTSD is not an addiction...but an illness. I'm so angry that my family considers this to be a choice. NO ONE would "choose" this illness.
Did he mean it like that? If he did, he deserves a slap with the DSM (so he has an aching cheek & the ability to look up the differences) but I think that phrase can also be used if someone has any severe somatic or psychiatric illness I think.
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That this illnes is a "CHOICE". i texted my brother that I was living in a homeless shelter and his response was "I'm praying for your recovery". I promptly informed him PTSD is not an addiction...but an illness. I'm so angry that my family considers this to be a choice. NO ONE would "choose" this illness.
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Default Feb 16, 2018 at 10:27 AM
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That if you're being triggered, you will be very obviously being triggered. That if you're not thrashing about/yelling you clearly aren't having an episode.

I hardly ever have a fight response, my response is always to freeze and shut down so everyone always just thinks I'm not paying attention and if I say I had a trigger and was having a PTSD flashback they look at me like they don't believe me.
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Default Feb 18, 2018 at 07:32 AM
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PTSD (and related ovary explosion-not precise medical name)taught me
happy people want to ignore negative things.Or have fun.
I was in ob-gyn,fighting for life,there was lots of happy soon-to-be mothers and "fathers"(were they pregnant?)sitting on chair and I was lying on floor.They were curiously watching me.

I lost trust for human parents I hope other people will not triggered,as my trigger is too common thing in life.
And I lost trust for my then-living mother by telling me I choose my ex.

She kept telling me forget about all of them and move on.I did if I could.It's a reflex.Engraved my nerve and just react.I hope people at least close to someone with PTSD understand it.

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Default Feb 19, 2018 at 04:47 PM
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That if you're being triggered, you will be very obviously being triggered. That if you're not thrashing about/yelling you clearly aren't having an episode.

I hardly ever have a fight response, my response is always to freeze and shut down so everyone always just thinks I'm not paying attention and if I say I had a trigger and was having a PTSD flashback they look at me like they don't believe me.
Me too. I freeze as well. I had one in a psych ward and no one believed me because I wasn't yelling my head off.
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Default Feb 19, 2018 at 04:55 PM
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That we can choose "to not be consumed by triggers." "You are allowing your self to be consumed and you CAN control your thoughts". Makes me wanna slap some cognition in the people who say this to me when I'm having an attack of anxiety, panic or just plain ole nuclear melt down. Tis exhausting trying to explain this to people who "choose" not to understand. If ya can't understand it, at least try a little sympathetic compassion.
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Default Feb 20, 2018 at 07:28 AM
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That if you're being triggered, you will be very obviously being triggered. That if you're not thrashing about/yelling you clearly aren't having an episode.

I hardly ever have a fight response, my response is always to freeze and shut down so everyone always just thinks I'm not paying attention and if I say I had a trigger and was having a PTSD flashback they look at me like they don't believe me.
I get exactly the same. I just freeze and stop responding, withdrawing completely and making myself invisible. People interpret it as being weird, sulking, offended... When in reality I'm scared and every single one of my muscles is tight in defense and not knowing what to say or do.

It's a terrible state which almost no one understands
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Default Feb 20, 2018 at 08:39 AM
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My husband's that way. When he's frozen in place and pretty much unresponsive, I know he's triggered.
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Default Feb 21, 2018 at 10:42 PM
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Two things: that there are any meds that treat PTSD. There are not. There are meds that have been found to help various symptoms, but nothing that just magically treats the whole disorder. Many of us are on no meds at all in relationship to our PTSD. I am not.

The second, this thing where everyone everywhere is using the word "triggered" to mean anytime they have an emotion about anything. A trigger is something jolts you into an episode, it's not just something that upsets you or irritates you. Everyone gets triggered by every little thing...it really bothers me the overuse of the term. When I say I'm triggered, I mean I'm having a real episode, a flashback, an uncontrollable rage episode due to PTSD, a panic attack, or some other PTSD response that is a disordered response. You are not triggered because the barista got your latte order wrong and you're upset. You're just upset. You're not triggered because someone on Facebook disagreed with you, that's just being mad. Having a normal emotional response is not being triggered. UG.

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