[ACrystalGem]

I went to Overeaters Anonymous for just over a year. At first it was great for me, but over time it got rotten. I don't like to be touched in any way without someone asking first - if they do ask, I'm very affectionate, and can give great hugs and cuddles.

BUT

At OA, they wouldn't stop touching me in a form of hugs at the end of each meeting. I told everyone at my home meeting that I didn't like that, but was pretty much ignored. Another meeting in Central London was absolutely horrific. I'd end up in floods of tears as a result of non-consensual touching. Some people would approach me with arms wide open, and almost throw themselves at me. When I shrunk back, many of them would become angry - one became quite aggressive to me. Sometimes I've been able to say "No thanks" but that's often ignored. Nobody seems to understand how unwanted touch makes me regress to abusive episodes. Even if they did understand, a 'No Thanks' should be enough to respect. I'm petrified to return to OA - I hate that something so many people can do is off-limits to me. Why is it so hard for folks to just ask?

[RubyRae]

I experienced the same thing in a 12-step group.People didn't understand and continued to do it.

I don't have any advice or suggestions because I just stood there,stiff bodied,not knowing how to deal with the situation.But I wanted to let you know I understand what you went through.