[luckylife]

So I thought I was AvPD but took the sanity test and scored on PTSD quite highly. One of the traits of PTSD is avoiding situations that might repeat past events or cause conflict. So in a way explains why I thought I was avoidant.
The fundamental reason for this I think was childhood in that I am unsure of if I was adopted - there are many signs that hint at 'them' not being my biological parents, plus if I have ever visited i am treated like a complete stranger! I mean total surprise. So we will call them my parents but they were perpetually abusive, shouting, physical beatings, theft, absence of emotion, with even my sister's joining in (who I think are related to 'them').
To cut a long story short I left home and returned twice in 20 years - one of them died (natural causes) the other one is very old. Not much I can do when there is self-denial of crimes but to treat them like adults. I accused one of the sisters of attempted murder and assisting an offender, the other of violent assault. Since we're all grown up you know.
I could tell you about my early childhood and who I think was my real parent but it will be a tale so sinister that you would seriously wonder who won the war in Europe.
Anyways, not trying to get you all down as life is a lot better now I'm independent. Chin up.

[Buffy01]

Originally Posted by luckylife

So I thought I was AvPD but took the sanity test and scored on PTSD quite highly. One of the traits of PTSD is avoiding situations that might repeat past events or cause conflict. So in a way explains why I thought I was avoidant.
The fundamental reason for this I think was childhood in that I am unsure of if I was adopted - there are many signs that hint at 'them' not being my biological parents, plus if I have ever visited i am treated like a complete stranger! I mean total surprise. So we will call them my parents but they were perpetually abusive, shouting, physical beatings, theft, absence of emotion, with even my sister's joining in (who I think are related to 'them').
To cut a long story short I left home and returned twice in 20 years - one of them died (natural causes) the other one is very old. Not much I can do when there is self-denial of crimes but to treat them like adults. I accused one of the sisters of attempted murder and assisting an offender, the other of violent assault. Since we're all grown up you know.
I could tell you about my early childhood and who I think was my real parent but it will be a tale so sinister that you would seriously wonder who won the war in Europe.
Anyways, not trying to get you all down as life is a lot better now I'm independent. Chin up.

I completely understand how you feel.

[RoxanneToto]

Would you consider taking a DNA test and registering it on a genealogy site, if it’s within your budget? Would help answer the question of whether you’re adopted or not, at least. But when it comes to how our families treat us, blood ties are largely irrelevant. I’m glad you’re doing better, now!