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With my cPTSD emotional triggers/flashbacks I've got as far as recognising them and I keep them inside but it's just this extreme internal tension and bad sensations with muscle tension/even cramps sometimes. I noticed I can calm it a lot better when it just randomly comes up on its own when I'm alone (say it just totally randomly comes up or I read something and that caused a trigger). But if I'm around other people then if they say or do something that causes it then I still can't deal with it.
When I am alone, it's a very recent development about how I'm now able to calm it. I'm able to because I know what's going on and nothing specific actually happened and I know I don't need to get all upset about my own garbled thoughts or random triggers. I'm able to tell myself it will all be ok and stuff. I'm able to tell myself all the caring stuff about how it is all okay actually. But when it's other people doing stuff it just all gets a load more complex. Not able to tell myself these calming things so easily. What could I do about this? PS: I have alexithymia ie difficulty with emotion recognition and processing so if you have any tips with that in mind specifically it would be absolutely great but I'm interested in any kind of tip really. Thanks. |
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I'll post an update for myself. I try to tell myself, I've got better boundaries and better processing abilities and I can wait until I see more on the situation in retrospect and just try to trust that it's a normal enough situation and that whatever other people were saying or doing that made me feel tense and "triggered"/emotional flashback like that, it in reality doesn't have meaning, like maybe they didn't seem to accept my expression or something and then I react that way (as an example) and then I'm like I expressed or felt (even without expressing) what I felt, not more, not less, others cannot judge me for it by their unfavourable-seeming reactions. I can own what I feel and there is nothing wrong with what I feel even if others don't accept what I feel (I am not talking about the trauma trigger feelings. This is just an example of what leads to triggers). And I'll try that the next time such a trigger happens and see if I'm able to calm down fast from the tension then
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