[emily1890]

tough post to make, but need to rant about it.
tonight someone asked me about my sister and said to me oh, she must be about (insert age now)

a little background:

Possible trigger:

my mother actually killed my sister when I was still living with her, and she was going to do the same to me before people stepped in to stop it

ever since she died, (and I witnessed her death),, I have basically deleted her from my life- since she was never really a sister to me anyway, and took every chance she got to abuse me. if she saw my mom punch me in the stomach, that's what she'd do.

anyway, I said to them I don't talk about her. she's dead. my mom killed her

and they continued to ask about her and her name and what she was like

blah I feel terrible

[emily1890]

also (unrelated), I got told today I look older than I am.

going well..

[unaluna]

Im sorry. People just dont get the insanity we can face at the hands of our family. My parents told me that in the old country they would have

Possible trigger:

honor killed me,

and the only reason they werent doing it in the new country is because they didnt want to go to jail. I wish i had taken them more seriously and acted accordingly, like by leaving.

[Open Eyes]

It shocks me that human beings have customs where they have no respect for life. How women especially can be treated so badly, like slaves is horrible

[Travelinglady]

Seems to me that those people were insensitive to want to know more about your sis when you told them what happened to her.

I'm so glad you and unaluna were able to get away from that environment. I hope more young women can.

[Stillhuman]

As someone who lived through a brutal dynamic within my own family I can relate a little. They felt superior and thought I deserved violence and saw me as less than. My mother also likely abused my brother, but it's hard to feel sympathy for him, given the actions he choose to act out towards me. He was an adult when he committed the worst harm. I left my family of origin because I felt subjected to the ideal to keep up appearances of normalcy. I felt almost punished for not doing so.