Relationship with a partner with PTSD

If there is a more appropriate forum for this, please let me know.

In a relationship (or was??) with a person whose PTSD symptoms were profoundly triggered about 6 months ago. I am having a very difficult time in the relationship and have no idea if there even is a relationship anymore. She has completely emotionally disconnected from everyone.

I am committed to support her as much as I can and she accepts that support for whatever it's worth. I have been educating myself on what PTSD is, the symptoms, etc...and she is in therapy. I feel like right now, I have to emotionally let go of the relationship while trying to remain present and supportive so that she is not abandoned. I feel like I am being harmed more than I am helping her.

Can anyone give me advice, experience, or support on how to create and maintain boundaries that keep both of us safe? Is this even possible?

This feels like being in a tunnel with no light at the end, and if feels that way to me, I can't imagine how it feels for her. This has been so devastating for her, and I'm lost in all of it. I feel ashamed at not being able to do more and at expressing my own pain and loss.

Thanks.

@Parva I am sorry you have a relationship that is in a precarious position. That sounds like you are "walking on eggshells" trying to be supportive and not getting any favorable response.

My experience with a partner suffering mental health challenges has shown me that if they did not want treatment or they were not compelled by reason of being a threat to themselves, then there was little I could do. I actually found that periods where they were hospitalized were the least stressful times in recent times. I got to get my life and support system on solid ground.

If I would give any advice, it would be to be supportive and non reactive. Anger just drives someone away when they are already so hurting.

But my strongest advice is to get a therapist for you and set up a supportive routine of exercise, healthy food, and practicing mindfulness to learn emotion management. It will make dealing with your partner easier but will also make your own life seem more solid and content.

If you want you may also find posting in Relationships supportive.
@CANDC