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Old Mar 24, 2023 at 01:56 PM
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Old Mar 24, 2023 at 06:18 PM
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Have been and now am not! Feeling like myself again and actually happy. I am giving myself reassurance that I deserve to be well and live a happy life and not letting myself feel guilty.

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Old Mar 26, 2023 at 05:10 AM
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Have been and now am not! Feeling like myself again and actually happy. I am giving myself reassurance that I deserve to be well and live a happy life and not letting myself feel guilty.
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Old Mar 26, 2023 at 05:16 AM
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One thing my abusive ex would do is threaten suicide if i didnt do as he wanted

He also said he would make sure i had two kids cause he wanted them, i have never wanted kids

He wouldnt allow protection in the house for either of us and even though fire is a major fear of mine, he wouldnt allow me to wear anything in bed at night, he would literally hide my pajamas so i couldnt wear them

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Old Mar 26, 2023 at 06:58 AM
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He has so many restraining orders against different exes he will run out of places he's allowed to live, if he's not careful .........
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Old Mar 26, 2023 at 07:50 AM
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He has so many restraining orders against different exes he will run out of places he's allowed to live, if he's not careful .........
You mean exes had orders against him?
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You mean exes had orders against him?
yes he wasnt allowed to go within however many miles it was of the homes of some of his exes, even before i got involved with him

i wasnt able to see the red flag at the time

i have only recently began to understand why thats a big red flag (learning disabilities that i got)
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Old Mar 27, 2023 at 01:33 AM
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Glad to see this thread. If anyone here needs support from someone who's been through it also I am here <3

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Old Mar 29, 2023 at 12:15 AM
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Anyone else's families judge everyone you date in fear of them being abusive too?

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Anyone else's families judge everyone you date in fear of them being abusive too?
I havent dated since the ex i said in this thread
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Old Apr 01, 2023 at 01:15 PM
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Do you consider abuse in the hospital an abusive relationship? Cause I've had that.

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Old Apr 02, 2023 at 06:21 AM
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I grew up with a physically and abusive mother. Married someone like her trying to fix the past. Divorced after 31 years, then experienced spiritual abuse.....a church that put my name up on a big screen, followed by the words, "Conduct Unbecoming a child of God." The book, The Verbally Abusive Relationship saved my sanity and my life. I still have my faith and sense of humor!
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Anyone else's families judge everyone you date in fear of them being abusive too?
While being able to see red flags is good for self protection, being overly hyper vigilant causes you to not be able to trust anyone. Itís not good to try to see the bad, lead with that kind of thinking.

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Exactly TishaBiv. I hope my family can see that one day.

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I had an ex -boyfriend who suddenly :hug became mentally abusive

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While being able to see red flags is good for self protection, being overly hyper vigilant causes you to not be able to trust anyone. Itís not good to try to see the bad, lead with that kind of thinking.
Iíll keep this in mind.

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I'm not getting in another relationship ever again. Just hurt after hurt after hurt.

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While being able to see red flags is good for self protection, being overly hyper vigilant causes you to not be able to trust anyone. Itís not good to try to see the bad, lead with that kind of thinking.
I agree. I've definitely been in abusive relationships.

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I agree. I've definitely been in abusive relationships.

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