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Feb 23, 2009 at 02:37 AM
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Thanks again you guys for your kind words and support!
 It's nice to be able to just say whatever.  I explained it as simply as I could to my daughter...basically just what you said P7, mummy isn't well but she loves you, it's not you, it's her and we need to help her. I asked her if she understood and she told me back in her words, so yeah, she gets it.  Yesterday was a lot better, she actually came to me on the couch and cuddled, I know it doesn't sound like much, but to me it's huge. I know it's her kinda going through the motions, because she doesn't need the intimacy, but she did it because she loves me and knows I need it, which is really cool. Thanks again guys! God Bless! |
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Feb 23, 2009 at 09:56 AM
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Ihateit, you have really grown and progressed! You are doing excellent work and because of it, you and your wife are going to move through this and there will be great things ahead! (And actually, one of the best things to learn is to see the great things of today too!)............
__________________ Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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Feb 24, 2009 at 01:56 AM
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tiny steps but all in the right direction which makes them HUGE!!!!
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Feb 24, 2009 at 07:10 AM
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And you're right, when she does things that let me know she does love me, and everything is ok, without me asking or saying a word, it's great! I notice them more each day. I promised to not ever take her or ous for granted again...
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Feb 24, 2009 at 07:12 AM
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) and feel "normal"...it's huge for me! Thanks again you guys for your support and caring!
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Mar 01, 2009 at 08:24 AM
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Wow, just reading what you've been going through makes me yearn for my husband to do the same thing - keep his distance! He thinks that by being even MORE affectionate, insisting on hugging, kissing, cuddling (which in his world leads to sex) is what will make our marriage better.
He has no clue. It's great to see that some people understand, even though it's painful, that space is needed... __________________ Don't follow the path that lies before you. Instead, veer from the path - and leave a trail... 
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