[FuturePretty]

My Sanity Sore is not a bad thing. It gives me hope that I wasn't feeling before I took the test.

I am an Avoidant Personality female with a Narcissistic Personality mother. I also had a violently abusive father that passed when I was 15. He was used as my mother's "weapon of choice" and clearly had problems of his own as well.

I do have a counselor and I am doing very well in learning to function better for myself and those who care about me. I am getting better every day but still have errors and disordered thinking or confusion at times. Always learning now that I know myself better

I am here because I am seeking help to be the best person I can be. I have a 24 year old child who I love so much. Sometimes I have difficulty showing what it is I feel and this is a huge issue for me but my kids (I have a son-in-law too) are very caring and kind. They are thrilled that I am trying so hard and incredibly supportive.
I guess I just want to be as openly caring as they are towards me without leaning too hard on them for support when I feel uncertain or confused.

I am currently in a relationship with a person who is unfortunately a narcissist. It is unhealthy. I have set my minimum standards for respect and behavior moving forwards and I am not certain he can meet them. They're very basic. Nothing too hard but I will understand if its not possible for us to achieve mutual respect. We've been through so much and we've been here before. Many times. This time I'm not backing down and he may not be capable of changing. He refuses to talk to anyone and insists he is not the problem. That, in part, was something I believed for a very long time but no more. So, I'm in a tough spot right now but no matter what happens it will be okay and everyone will survive

So, in essence, I just wanted to share why I'm here and put myself out there. No expectations and I'm not sure what I need other than just to share and a chance to learn more about how to deal with my own issues so I can stop perpetuating my own problems and stop giving permission for others to make my life more difficult than it should be.

And to say
Hello

[Travelinglady]

Hi, FuturePretty, and welcome! I have certainly seen much higher sanity scores.

Feel free to post about yourself in what forums seem appropriate. For example, you might want to write about your boyfriend in the Relationships and Communication forum. Here is the link to that: http://forums.psychcentral.com/relat...communication/.

[FuturePretty]

I posted there just now. Thank you for the advice and the kind welcome Much appreciated.

[nycgal448]

Hi future pretty. Glad U have a positive outlook, on ur situation.