[amy83]

So it happened again. I got upset bc my bf still doesn't want sex. I don't get it I really dont know what to do.

Last night we went to bed together and we we're laying together and started kissing him and he went with it he kissed me back little bit of tongue and everything. He did get hard too. Cuz I felt it then I touched it, But anyway he ends up saying okay lets just get it over with!!!
I didn't want to do that. That just makes me feel like ****. So I got mad and stomped out of the room. I came back and I said what is wrong what is the problem now. I've tried so hard not to push it on you and to not be clingy. And you we're turned on so what is the problem. He says I wasn't turned on just bc its hard doesn't mean I'm turned on..... He says maybe he needs mental viagara cuz he can't get in the mood... I just don't know what to do. I want to beg him to go off suboxone. But I feel like he will probably relapse if he does. Does anyone know how to deal with this??? Relationship wise or getting off the meds alltogether????

[Foomph]

I'm probably not much help, because I'm in the situation your bf is in, and my hubby is in yours. Although I don't even get any physical reaction (at least your guy got a hard-on). But I figured I would say something....

I know for me, my lack of sexual desire is partly form sex abuse, partly genetically low libido, partly my cold parents' modeling, and partly from antidepressants.

That is why I'm in therapy-I don't know how to fix it, but I want to, desperately. Getting off anti depressants alone did not help my libido, but i did relapse and my hubby wanted me to get back on them asap, regardless of my asexuality...switching brands wasn't much better...therapy is helping, slooooooooooooooowly, but helping nevertheless.

Does he have any sexual issues? Is he in therapy? Or just on drugs?

[amy83]

Originally Posted by Foomph

I'm probably not much help, because I'm in the situation your bf is in, and my hubby is in yours. Although I don't even get any physical reaction (at least your guy got a hard-on). But I figured I would say something....

I know for me, my lack of sexual desire is partly form sex abuse, partly genetically low libido, partly my cold parents' modeling, and partly from antidepressants.

That is why I'm in therapy-I don't know how to fix it, but I want to, desperately. Getting off anti depressants alone did not help my libido, but i did relapse and my hubby wanted me to get back on them asap, regardless of my asexuality...switching brands wasn't much better...therapy is helping, slooooooooooooooowly, but helping nevertheless.

Does he have any sexual issues? Is he in therapy? Or just on drugs?

Thank you for your concern, I dont really know if he has any sexual issues, as far as i know he said he was a virgin til age 18...Was in a juvenile facility for awhile because his parents lost custody of him and his brother and sister... And he got in some trouble when he was younger.
The drug he is on I think has an affect on the happy receptors in your brain. He was addicted to pain killers before.

But he finally admitted last night that he thinks he's depressed and going through as he calls it a" quarter life crisis" he's 27....
So now I just really want to help him