My H and I have been married for almost 9 years. We have two beautiful girls together. We have had our share of ups and downs though (Internet infidelities, periods of complete sexual abstinence). I feel a lot of guilt for a lot of things. I feel like I've dragged him into debt (he had no debt before he met me), brought him face-to-face with dysfunctional family issues (my mom and dad who hate each other but still live together, my brother who is a hard core drug addict and still lives at home). We are great a lot of the time, but on the bad days, I feel like I have trapped him, that he is too good of a guy to say "let's just call this off." Now that I have been on medication, I am feeling even worse in this reguard. He doesn't understand mental illness, was against medication for the longest time. Now I feel that my being on meds gives him an excuse to place blame ... "You are overreacting because you're depressed... You are wrong because you're depressed..." Of course, he has never outright said these things, but I feel they are insinuated.
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