FAQ/Help |
Calendar |
Search |
Wise Elder
Member Since Oct 2008
Location: Australia
Posts: 8,135
15 1,268 hugs
given |
#1
Ok I need cheering up so Im starting this thread ...
If your T could do one nice thing for you what would it be? I would like T to give me a hug Your Turn __________________ Its not how many times you fall down that counts its how many times you get back up! (Thanks to fenrir for my Picture ) When you have come to the edge of all light that you know and are about to drop off into the darkness of the unknown, Faith is knowing One of two things will happen: There will be something solid to stand on or you will be taught to fly. by Patrick Overton, author and poet |
Reply With Quote |
Legendary
Member Since Mar 2009
Location: US
Posts: 13,284
(SuperPoster!)
15 9,983 hugs
given |
#2
I would like T to let me email her.
Suggestion: How about adding one nice thing our T already does for us? MIne always returns my phone calls, usually within a couple of hours. Often she even answers the phone so I don't have to wait in "agony" for a call back. |
Reply With Quote |
Grand Magnate
Member Since Dec 2008
Location: Australia
Posts: 3,124
15 |
#3
woud like: give me a hug
already does: so many things! but if i'm limited to one thing... complete positive regard and acceptance. i feel like i'm the most valuable person on the planet when i'm with pdoc. |
Reply With Quote |
Veteran Member
Member Since Sep 2008
Location: Middle of nowhere
Posts: 744
15 30 hugs
given |
#4
Great thread
Nice thing my T already did: she emailed me a few stories, that were both fun to read and gave me something to think about. Nice thing I would like: idk, I get everything I want, I even send her emails in English (and I'm from not English speaking country, but sometimes I think/write my journal in English, idk why). Oh, I would like her to offer me stuff to draw/collor during sessions. Last edited by 3velniai; May 07, 2009 at 11:34 AM.. |
Reply With Quote |
Elder
Member Since Feb 2009
Location: NJ
Posts: 7,326
15 3,268 hugs
given |
#5
I would like T to give me a hug and to call me - out of the blue - just to see how I'm doing.
What he already does? Gives me reassurance when I'm going in the right direction. __________________ Don't follow the path that lies before you. Instead, veer from the path - and leave a trail... |
Reply With Quote |
- - -
Member Since Nov 2008
Posts: 15,166
(SuperPoster!)
15 1,345 hugs
given |
#6
Quote:
OK, more realistically: I can't think of anything else. She does a lot for me already. |
|
Reply With Quote |
Veteran Member
Member Since Mar 2009
Posts: 300
15 2 hugs
given |
#7
what my therapist does for me: lets me call between sessions if I need to and always calls back right away if I leave a message, lets me write letters between sessions, allows me to bring my art journal to sessions to share how my week has gone, hugs me if i ask her to, but most of all she listens and never judges me...
what nice thing could she do for me? HA! never retire! she is the best! |
Reply With Quote |
Grand Magnate
Member Since Aug 2007
Posts: 3,747
16 |
#8
Tell me how insightful I am :-) and that she is on board in helping me design a comprehensive treatment approach.
Oh... It would be nice if she'd take my comp exams and write my disseration too...that's all I need :-) Last edited by chaotic13; May 07, 2009 at 01:35 PM.. |
Reply With Quote |
Guest
Posts: n/a
|
#9
I would like him to give me a hug (but I understand why he doesn't).
He already returns calls quickly. Puts up with my moods. Is my anchor and balance in life. |
Reply With Quote |
Grand Magnate
Member Since May 2008
Posts: 3,845
16 5 hugs
given |
#10
What I would want her to do:
Give hugs and not retire What she does: Lets me email and responds (even though i know she doesn't like having to respond to lots of email in her job). Even though she won't literally hug me, she does visualizations with me of her holding the little girl part of me. Goes to conferences and reads books to find ways to help me. |
Reply With Quote |
Member
Member Since Mar 2009
Location: UK
Posts: 100
15 |
#11
That he for once would move over to my side, & give me the biggest hug ever
He knows when to just let me go to where ever,... & when to bring me back... |
Reply With Quote |
Veteran Member
Member Since Jul 2008
Location: Alberta
Posts: 557
15 399 hugs
given |
#12
Mine would be to phone through out the week and see how im doing
|
Reply With Quote |
Member
Member Since Sep 2008
Posts: 293
15 |
#13
Would like: Either a hug or just to sit closer to me in sessions.
Already does: Reminds me of how far I've come and how much progress I've made. __________________ Everyone has a story. Everyone has gone through something that has changed them. |
Reply With Quote |
Guest
Posts: n/a
|
#14
I am so spoiled, I honestly can't think of anything T could do for me that he doesn't do already.
I guess he could tell me I am his favorite client! lol Teen me was in therapy today and working REALLY HARD to get him to say I was his favorite. All he would give me is "I really, REALLY like you A LOT". lolol Poor T. |
Reply With Quote |
Veteran Member
Member Since Mar 2009
Location: US
Posts: 305
15 |
#15
One (very little, teeny tiny) nice thing T could do for me is to move across the country in August when I do. A little far fetched? I'd settle for an "I'll miss you."
One nice thing T did was tell me that I'd make a great therapist someday. |
Reply With Quote |
Where the HELL are we?
Member Since Mar 2009
Location: So Cal
Posts: 3,342
15 29 hugs
given |
#16
I have a fantastic T. She sets appropriate boundaries and is always thinking about what is best for me.
If She could do one thing for me it would be to give me a hug. I long for safe human contact from people I trust, which aren't many, and I rarely get it. What she has done/is doing...well...the above, and she puts up with me...which is more than enough. Oh, and she gave me a bumper sticker about something we both enjoy which made me feel connected to her in a good way. She also encourages me to move forward with my Social Work education and I know that she is pulling for me in every way. __________________ |
Reply With Quote |
Grand Member
Member Since May 2008
Location: East Coast
Posts: 960
16 |
#17
What I need from T
I need lots of reassurance, I need to know that she is concerned for me, for my well being, that I am not just another client. (In hindsight, something I never got from my mom.) What would really shock me is a phone call out of nowhere from her, just saying she is thinking about me, but thats probably selfish of me lol. What she does, she gives me hugs, I really like that, I don't think I can fully suck them up just yet, but I like them just the same. I also like that she is very warm in session and that she lets me email her. I wish I could be more open with her. __________________ Hangingon When you feel your nearing the end of your rope tie a knot and hang on !!! |
Reply With Quote |
Legendary Wise Elder
Member Since Dec 2003
Location: Coram Deo
Posts: 35,474
(SuperPoster!)
20 1,651 hugs
given |
#18
What a nice thread!
I would share with you that it's unethical for your therapist to call you "out of the blue" just to see how you are doing.... unless.... you talk about it in session, and ask the therapist to call and check on you when you both know you aren't doing very well. Some still might not, but this will open the door to those who would like to, but are held back by ethical guidelines. And for those who would like a hug now and then, have you shared that with your therapist? Sometimes just sharing the desire helps, and other times the T will find another way to help you with those times...and still others? Well, they might just give you a therapeutic hug! Good wishes. __________________ |
Reply With Quote |
Where the HELL are we?
Member Since Mar 2009
Location: So Cal
Posts: 3,342
15 29 hugs
given |
#19
My T has called me a couple times when I was going through some difficult times, even without us discussing it in session first. I found it very helpful and comforting to know that even though there are boundaries in therapy, someone still cared enough to be concerned and was pulling for me.
It made a world of difference to know that I mattered enough for my T to take the time and effort to connect with me in this way. I don't think it had anything to do with ethics really, just plain old fashioned being a caring human being. __________________ |
Reply With Quote |
Wise Elder
Member Since Jan 2009
Posts: 7,516
15 486 hugs
given |
#20
If my T could do anything, I would want her to move around with me for the rest of my life (though most importantly when I go to graduate school in August).
She already responds to phone calls really quickly and follows my jumps during sessions. Most importantly she doesn't get mad at me when my distorted thinking rears its head and I get angry at her. She has also told me that she cares about me and that made me feel cared for. |
Reply With Quote |
Reply |
|