[Typo]

It's summer, which means no college, which means to way to get to T, which means I'm at a stand still till fall starts up, which means I'm trying to cope with all this free time (too much idle time for me equals disaster), trying to cope with the isolation ( work keeps me from my friends most of the time) and just well being cooped up in the house and around my chaotic disfunctional family...

so I"m doing something T suggested I do before we had to take a break, and that is make a schedule. She said having a schedule for the summer will help me from just laying in bed and might give me some sort of order in my life.

I'm stuck though :/

I don't know how to make a schedule, I mean I don't know how to start it!
I know I should get up before noon, lol that is a good start, I feel so lost and at such a horrible stand still, I just want to cry, I miss my T sessions, I miss feeling like I was getting somewhere, I'm at a stand still, and it feels horrible

((((((((((((((((((((sparrow)))))))))))))))))))))) I'm so sorry you have to spend the summer without T!!

I know that I do better when I have kind of a schedule. Nothing too rigid, but some guidelines.

Can you break your day into pieces and try to schedule bits and pieces and add as you go, instead of doing the WHOLE thing at once??

For example, I have discovered that because I have to call my mom every day at 8am and there is no telling how the day will go after that, there are things I have to do before 8 every day. So every day, I get up at 6, exercise, have my smoothie, feed the kids, clean the kitchen, and have a shower. Having that "scheduled" first thing in the morning gives me a reason to get up. And then, at the end of the day, I kind of end up with a "bedtime", because I am tired from getting up early.

Not suggesting MY crazy schedule(!) but just giving an example. Maybe a certain time each day to get out of bed, go for a walk, have breakfast, whatever. And then if there is something you love to do, like art or writing, maybe schedule that in at some point. I am trying to schedule more time with my friends, because connecting with other people helps me, so I have pool dates lined up for the next two Mondays....

So, maybe think about what you'd like to get done in the day, start small,and go from there??

((((((((((((((((((((sparrow)))))))))))))))))))) I bet there are lots of people here who will help you if you need really concrete help

[Sannah]

Originally Posted by Silversparrow

I feel so lost and at such a horrible stand still, I just want to cry, I miss my T sessions, I miss feeling like I was getting somewhere, I'm at a stand still, and it feels horrible

Treehouse has some great ideas. Is there a hobby that you love to do or is there one you have an interest in starting? Volunteering is good too! I meet a lot a people through exercising. Sometimes I watch a much of sappy movies, the stuff nobody else in the house wants to watch. The biggest thing when I am out of school, is going to the library to read stuff I WANT to read, not all the stuff that professor MAKE you read. Even it is going to the library to just read magazines. Visits some art museums, watch a ballgame, whatever it is you wish you could do that you can't because school keeps you so busy. The hardest part is just STARTING it. Hope you feel better.

[Typo]

I'm STARTING T BACK!!!

It works out where I can have sessions on fridays!!

[chaotic13]

Sliver...great news!

Yay, I'm happy for you
I could help you start that schedule...

Wake up
stretch, breathe
go get breakfast

[thinker22]

Therapy is good yeah. I go to college too and am out for the summer, but I live in the same city where I go to school, so I never had to stop therapy. However, I have the same problem as you, too much time on my hands. Ya know, I have no idea what I do with all the hours of the day. Internet, TV, etc. I feel like I'm wasting so much time, but I'm sure I did things, at least if I don't just lay semi-conscious on the bed because I'm so depressed. I mean, I'm not currently...I've had 3 good days of feeling fine to great.

The whole rigid or flexible schedule thing sounds daunting to me. Not even sure what I want to accomplish over the summer. Maybe I'll talk about it in therapy next week. I don't exercise and there are so many books I want to read, so those are 2 goal areas I guess I could start with.

Anyways, thanks for the post. Made me reevaluate my summer freetime.

[deliquesce]

i find uni breaks really difficult too. i tried to get a summer job last year to help me with the free time, but that ended up in disaster (not enough free time! lol).

thinker - write out a list of books you want to read, plan a day that you'll go get them (unless you have them already), maybe decide that on 3 certain days you are going to walk etc. i am pretty good with making schedules, but i am hopeless with sticking to them.

[thinker22]

Deli, I'm so afraid I will fail at accomplishing my goals that I don't even want to set any. I think I'll procrastinate until I can talk about this subject in therapy later this week.

Lazily yours,

thinker (soon to be doer)