Crying all the time in therapy

I keep crying 'every time' I go to therapy - it is so embarrassing and, at the same time, aggravating. Has anyone experienced this?

Thanks

I do cry sometimes and there have been periods where I cried most every time. With my first therapist, I did cry a lot because I was at the bottom of the pit and so very stressed out.I think at that time, crying in T was a good way to let the stress out and not have to hold inside all the sorrow and pain I had been carrying around. There have been times, especially with the current T, where I did cry and not want to, and was frustrated that I couldn't push the sadness down. Sometimes it just comes out of nowhere and surprises me. But he always encouraged me to not fight it.

They are trained to handle this. it is OK.

Thanks - I appreciate the feedback.

I pretty much cry every session I have. But then it is quiet often an everyday thing anyway. I hate people seeing me cry and apologise every time it happens, but he just tells me it's ok to cry and gives me some time before we carry on.

In a year, I've yet to cry in T. Sometimes I wish I could, so I could stop feeling like a heartless *****, but it hasn't happened. Given some of the things we've discussed, I should have by now, but my body really doesn't let me cry under any circumstances...T included. Maybe one day I'll be able to, though.

I've learned to steel my emotions, unfortunately. I have cried once or twice in front of my p-doc over the course of a year, but never in therapy. I'd like to get to that point of feeling comfortable enough to if I need to get it out, but I'm not there yet. Kudos on being more in touch with your emotions. I don't think it's embarrassing. It's kind of what they're there for. So you can work on everything and not bottle it up like we often have to in daily life.

I definitely don't find it embarrassing, and I definitely think that it would help me in T more than it would hurt me, but I physically can't. I've been close on a couple of occasions, but it never really happens.

Face plant - very good!!

I cried through entire sessions when I began, often not able to say much at all. I kept apologizing, T kept smiling and saying it was alright and that I might have to do that a while
On one level it felt good. Good to be able to cry, good to have it accepted warmly and without judgement. It probably helped me a lot with trust.

Sadly, I think my T has come closer to crying in a session than I ever have. Not that there's anything wrong with that, it's just ironic because I'm the one who's disclosing her entire life.

I never want to cry but if I do I "give it up" and just let it happen but keep concentrating on what I'm working on and saying. My husband started laughing (kindly) once because I was earnestly still talking, tears pouring, and he found it less frustrating than dealing with his first wife who would be all tears and being upset and "stop" everything else, even before the other person could understand what was upsetting or anything much at all. I just keep plowing forward once I "lose" that wall around me.

I've cried a few times before. It really depends on what we're talking about. The first couple times I did, I would apologize. She'd tell me it was ok. Sometimes, I'll actually want to cry - it makes it seem like I'm not exaggerating my feelings as much (which is one of my biggest fears in T).

School bullying has always been hard for me to talk about, because it led to my anxiety, which is what eventually brought me into T. I can see myself crying more than I usually do when we begin to talk about it.

Thanks for all the great feedback - seems like its all okay!

fallenangel: Like you, I've never cried in therapy, but my T has more than a few times had tears in her eyes. I always wished it were me, and not her, and that I could just break down and cry. She told me that I don't have to cry for therapy to be effective. Still, I wish I had cried when I felt sad.

it's perfectly normal, rozine .

my old-T used to tell me it was ok, and that he had people who came in and cried all the time. i didnt believe him, but then he showed me the bin that was 3/4 full from tissues already for that day (it gets emptied out every day - lol, how many boxes his clients must go through!). i did cry a few times with him, and at one point i was crying nearly every session, and i said "i feel stupid for crying every session" and he was really surprised because a) he doesn't think it's bad to cry and b) he didn't notice that i did it regularly. maybe because it's such a part of his job, he doesn't notice it as something abnormal to store away.

i have become a bit teary with my pdoc but never completely bawled my eyes out (thank god). i dont know why it is more difficult with pdoc, because i trust him so much more than old-T.

when i first did therapy years ago i cried a lot because i was so depressed. i still tear up now and then. it's healthy to let it out. i hate crying in front of other people but it's easier if it is a t. hopefully some day i won't be so self-conscious crying in front of non-t people.

I say good for you for letting it out! I desperately want to cry in therapy, but so far I've only had tears in my eyes a couple of times. I feel it coming up, and I stuff it back down. My T and I have even discussed it, and I've told her that I want to cry, I feel like I need to cry. And I do believe that one of these days, I will cry! But I'm glad that you can cry all you want, that's where I want to be!

I think crying is a way to let out painful ekmotions and a way to cope. When I was younger I guess I cried to much as a little boy, or was too emotional and my family made fun of me. I eventually stopped crying and instead I would just go numb and mentally beat myself up for wanting to cry. I only cry now when I am alone and incredible sad. I think crying is a way for you to emotional reconize painful things and express your emmotions. I don't think it is a bad thing, unless it interferes with your healing.

I've cried almost every time in therapy. I cry a lot more often now in general. My lowest points of the day are usually morning and night. I also cry in the car. There I can really let it out without fear of anyone hearing me and telling me to stop.

I need to cry but I find it hard. I also have a tendency to hide behind my hands when I cry.

I have cried many times in therapy, and always find myself apologizing for it even though I know t is going to say it's all good. sometimes i cry because she pushes me to sit there and FEEL my feelings and that's sooo hard.... sometimes I cry because 'little artemis' still in some deep place inside expects to be punished for having feelings...... sometimes I cry from fighting the feelings that are trying to surface......

I often cry in therapy I feel so ashamed in doing it too but it is something I can't control.

I imagine how we feel about crying in therapy has a lot to do with how our parents responded to us, or not.

If I cry my mum ignores me and talks over me. My T has learned that it is really important to respond somehow when I cry - eg to ask if I want tissues - or I get really distressed.

I often cry during sessions, and I don't feel bad about it at all. (I'm pretty free with my tears generally.) I'm seeing a therapist for grief and depression issues, so the waterworks make a pretty frequent show. I might, while I'm reaching for a tissue, say something like, "I'm sorry! I'm so emotional today!", but it's just a formula, to help defuse the overwhelming quality of the outburst a bit. I'm not really sorry. In fact, crying in the context of therapy seems natural to me and can be very helpful to both you and the therapist.

I can't imagine trying not to cry if I felt tears starting up. I try hard to be as genuine and 'in the moment' during a session as I can, in the hope of getting as close to the heart of my troubles as directly as possible - also to help my very wise and caring psychologist in his efforts to help me by letting him see whatever is going on inside me.

I know it isn't easy for everyone, but I'd urge you to try letting it out if you feel yourself about to cry during a session. It can be a wonderful relief. A good therapist has a lot of experience with crying and will not be alarmed or judgmental.