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#21
Hmm... I will look this over, thank you.
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#22
This certainly describes a lot of what I'm going through.
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#23
I hope it helps.
Since the information comes from the book by David Burns, just be sure to give him credit when you do copy it. And there's more good stuff in the book, should you wish to check it out from the library or buy it. TC __________________ |
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#24
You assume that your negative emotions necessarily reflect the way things really are: "I feel it, therefore it must be true."
This one is a lot how I get at times when depressed or overly critical. It can be confused with intuition which I try and listen to now. I see it can be definately colored. Sometimes I think my negative emotions are indeed the truth. I have to work on this! __________________ Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. Oscar Wilde Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History - Laurel Thatcher Ulrich The road to hell is paved with good intentions. "And psychology has once again proved itself the doofus of the sciences" Sheldon Cooper |
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yeah, same here. I need to listen more to some of the negative feelings I have and not push them aside. Sometimes they are there to warn me. __________________ Glory to heroes!
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[QUOTE=Shadowghost;1411294]ECHOES, apparently you didn't read my last post. At any rate, we'll just have to agree to disagree. Nothing you or anyone else say will convince me that my views need to change. As I told Perna, don't tell me my views are wrong. They work for me!!![/QUOTE
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Reward Fallacy -You expect all your sacrifices and self-denial to be rewarded. You feel bitter if good deeds are not reciprocated. You may always be doing the right thing but your heart`s not in it. God/ the universe is not keeping score! And you are physically and emotionally draining yourself. Being Right- . You feel the need to prove that your opinions /actions are correct. You can`t stand being wrong and you will go to any lengths to prove your `rightness`. This can make you hard of hearing as you are not interested in the possible truth of a different opinion. Your need to be right trumps your having an honest and caring relationship. Global Labeling - You generalize one or two qualities in yourself and others into a sweeping negative global judgement despite evidence to the contrary. This makes for a one-dimensional world view. Labeling yourself can injure your self esteem and stereo-typing others leads to snap-judgements, prejudice and relationship issues. Fallacy of Change- You feel people will change to suit you, if you pressure or cajole them enough. Your need to change people is anchored in the mistaken belief that your happiness depends solely on them. The reality is that the only hope you have of changing anyone is you! Your happiness, you believe depends on the actions of others when in fact, it depends on the zillions of choices you make daily. Fallacy of Fairness - According to our rules we have the expectation the world will play fair. And then disappointment sets in or deep resentment when others fail to live up to our expectations. While morality is based on ethical principles, for some people, it is situational.( ie Thou shalt not kill but it`s perfectly reasonable on a battle field...) If you cannot let go of unfair situations, you may wind up consumed with resentment, leaving you very bitter. You may even believe that other people`s ignoring of `your rules`of fairness, is a personal affront to you. This stance will only leave you spinning your wheels for a long time. I think many of us wrestle with that last one-I know I do! __________________ "And Oz never gave a thing to the Tin Man, that he didn't, didn't already have." America's Tin Man (1974) "Find happiness-then catch & release!" |
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#28
Thanks so much for this,
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#29
Thank you for sharing these misconceptions and truths. They are very helpful. Now, hopefully I can start to incorporate these into my life.
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#30
thank you for posting this! As soon as I looked in at the list I zoomed in onto number 2. I thought that I was always just over sensitive because everything upsets me even though I'm very good at hiding it.
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#32
simple and clear
i like how you numbered then and then referenced below. not overwhelming. thanks __________________ |
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I'm starting to look at life like we're all just animals. As lazy, evil, heroic as rats, if you will. We just need to figure out how we can alter our environment to see results. I'm not sure looking at decisions in a moral sense is productive. At least for me. |
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#34
confusion is setting in...
right now i'm in a state of confusion mostly, but i know my decisions have consequences. i wish i didn't. also i think in some way, wether intentional or not all decions are moral. it may not seem to be at the time, but..., |
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#35
How would a decision, say, of what color shoes to wear be a moral choice? Not.
We do have choices to work on how we think, what we say, the way we behave, or not. Consequences, while sounding negative can also be positive...and some things are just inconsequential. We can alter our environment, our behavior, our thinking with our attitude and will. We do it all the time, but we tend to believe the negative rather than anything positive; it works for either. The more we counter the negative thinking, the more positive we become (okay, don't go well duh!) Be well __________________ |
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#36
Well said!
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I have learned that no one is always right. No one knows it all. Systems keep changing, we keep changing. Keeping an open mind, looking at others points of view is a good thing. It doesnt mean one person is right and the other wrong.
Loosing, or being a loser. Everyone has experience it at some time. When I use to play sports you have a winner and a looser. I had no problem loosing, being a looser if I did my best and we lost. It was a good competition and someone else won, I could feel good about being a looser. Or now I play a game with someone and you have a winner or a looser. If you do something and enjoy it, have fun doing it, you can be a looser and its not a bad thing. |
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#39
wow...
i do pretty much all of the things on that list...ALL of them! i'll read the rest and see what it has to say. |
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