[Indie'sOK]

After a session, I'll always get a feeling of doubt...I can't really describe it. It's like, I wonder if T doesn't like me or something. She'll use sarcasm, and I really don't like sarcasm in T. Every other time, I don't mind it. But in T it just hurts. To me, it almost comes across as teasing. I know I need to discuss this with her.

Does anyone ever get this feeling after T? I'm not even sure if this really makes sense

[leahcim]

I've faced some pretty harsh criticism, but no "parting shots" of sarcasm such as you describe. You already said you will discuss it with your T so I'm sure it will stop.

Please keep us informed.

[kim_johnson]

Can you say 'ouch' when you feel hurt? I managed to train a therapist out of using sarcasm once she realized that it hurt me. Kind of hard... But sometimes our feelings aren't transparent to them. I mean... From my perspective its just obvious, but I do this numbing thing out of self protection and I came to realize that my t often didn't know when they had said something that I found to be hurtful.

[Melbadaze]

Yes tell T how you feel and the empaphy and understanding hopefully you get from the conversation does change things...not sure what kind of sarcasm you are getting...whether its deep hurtful stuff, which in that case I'd run from that T, or whether its a form of "play" that comes into the relationship? I know this happened with me, T was trying to be playful, but the subject was painful to me, ie I am afraid of lying on her couch and sometimes I;ll see the pillow placed from someone before me and T would gently tap the couch and tell me that some even lie upside down on it...we talked about this and she felt she shouldn't have "teased" me, but I told her that was fine, it was my own frustrations around not being able to lie on the couch, but the empaphy and look I got from T when she felt perhaps she'd caused the discomfort was nice, because growing up, any sarcasm would have become something-I_done or deserved, so it really is all grist for the mill...unless its abusive...