[MissCharlotte]

I have this fantasy of walking into T wearing a two piece suit, nice skirt and jacket, nice heels. I look my most adult and attractive self. I sit down and we talk about things and make intellectual references about the content. I weep softly occasionally, but don't freak out. I am not at a loss for words. T is gentle and kind and enamored of my intelligence. There is no discussion of self harm or ideation because it doesn't exist. We have a deep and abiding caring for each other. T compliments me every week on how well I am managing despite the inordinate amount of stress in my life. He shakes his head and says he just doesn't know how I do it. I thank him, and tell him it's the mindfulness and grounding I have learned through yoga. I make an appointment for next week. We discuss the impending vacation and I don't worry one bit because I know that it's normal for people to take vacations.

HAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA

:rotflmao: <- that's supposed to be a smiley. huh.

[Indie'sOK]

It would be nice if this were reality, wouldn't it?

[emilyjeanne]

I wish I could do that too!!!!!!!!!!

[lorna]

Wow, its a good imagination. You would be one in a million I am sure
Lorna

[Amazonmom]

Me too.

Of course if we were really that perfect we wouldn't need therapy at all!

((((Miss))))))) -
So, are you saying that this doesn't happen with you in session? lolol Nice post.

[sunrise]

I'll have some of what she's having!

[deliquesce]

you should try it .

it is funny how what we wear influences other's interactions with us. i usually see pdoc in my really casual uni gear, but over summer i was in a 'corporate' (heh, still government) job and would see him afterwards in my heels, makeup, dress etc. the interaction was lot more 'grown up'. it was weird having pdoc treat me differently, kind of lot more respect(?) than what usually happens. i think we were both relieved when i went back to normal-gear, because we could get back to the heavy stuff again.

[3velniai]

Originally Posted by deliquesce

it is funny how what we wear influences other's interactions with us.

That's interesting, I always thought it's the other way around. Well, at least for me it is. When I go to T directly from work with my work clothes on (suit and stuff, quite official), I am much more business like, there is no space for emotions or deep stuff and T can't change it. I mean, it's not that T treats me in a different way, I'm different and don't let her reach me.

[deliquesce]

^ oh, that's a good point too, 3!!

i guess it works both ways. i know i certainly dress differently when i want to project a different image (and also protect myself), but pdoc has also mentioned being affected in his interactions with me by how i dress.

Originally Posted by 3velniai

That's interesting, I always thought it's the other way around. Well, at least for me it is. When I go to T directly from work with my work clothes on (suit and stuff, quite official), I am much more business like, there is no space for emotions or deep stuff and T can't change it. I mean, it's not that T treats me in a different way, I'm different and don't let her reach me.

I have a hard time in therapy when I dress differently too...

I pretty much wear the same type of clothes all the time, but once I wore something...not dressy, but not my normal style...and another time I wore a sun dress... and I just wasn't comfortable and my session felt weird.

I need to be able to take off my shoes and curl up on the couch. And I tend to move around a LOT - laying on my stomach, switching sides of the couch and laying on my back, curling up in a ball in the corner of the couch, sitting cross-legged in the middle of the couch, sitting on the floor - I need really comfy and non-revealing clothes or I just can't DO therapy the way I need to do it.

Maybe when I "grow up" it will be different

[FooZe]

Originally Posted by treehouse

... I tend to move around a LOT - laying on my stomach, switching sides of the couch and laying on my back, curling up in a ball in the corner of the couch, sitting cross-legged in the middle of the couch, sitting on the floor...

Sounds like that's part of how you express yourself and I don't doubt that it works for you -- as feedback for you and as communication to T, among other things.

Maybe when I "grow up" it will be different

Awwwww!


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I noticed your problem with the ROTFLMAO smiley earlier, tried it myself, got the same result, and reported it on the Feedback & Tech Support board. Oddly enough, the results I got when demonstrating it there [and now here!] were NOT the same.

[FooZe]

Originally Posted by treehouse

:rotflmao: <- that's supposed to be a smiley. huh.

I got an answer here (thanks, Peg!) that may account for the problem. If you started to post with just the smiley (laughey? roll-on-floorey?) and the software automatically converted it to lowercase because you had no words with it...

... and then you left the lowercase :rotflmao: in place when you added an arrow and some words after it...

... the software might now refuse to display it because it was still LOWER CASE from before.

<--- laughing at the software , not at you.