[Bridgett]

I hope I'm in the right place. If I'm not, I apologize!

Here's my question:

I've been seeing my therapist for 6 months now and she's great! I like her alot and we've developed a great relationship....so great that we share a hug after EVERY session. I've made alot of progress and we both agree on that. However, I've been hurt recently by the sudden suggestion that my therapist offered of sending me off to see another therapist. Her reason was that she believes it's for my own good and she thinks this other therapist will be able to work with me better. I cried hard once she told me and I was so hurt, I was literally speechless. I'm now very angry with her and don't know what to say. I see her next week and I don't want to say anything that I'll regret or go out of line but I feel betrayed and I feel like she wants to get rid of me. Just when I felt comfortable with her and trusted her, I have to leave and start all over again with maybe someone I won't like. How could she do this to me? What should I do/say?!?! I want to tell her how I feel but I'm afraid of sounding too needy or something like that.

[sunrise]

Originally Posted by Bridgett

I've been hurt recently by the sudden suggestion that my therapist offered of sending me off to see another therapist.

You say she offered a suggestion of going to see someone else. Sounds like it was just an idea, but she isn't saying you have to go. Can you explore with her why she thinks it might be better for you to see someone else? Does she know how close you feel to her? Maybe she doesn't know how helpful you find the sessions with her and how well you like her. Can you tell her those things?

I would feel betrayed too but perhaps she really does believe your problems are outside of her scope of practice. Do you agree with that? Or do you think she has the skills to help you?

It sounds like the good thing is, it was just a suggestion to try someone else, not an ultimatum. When you cried when she made her suggestion, how did she react?

What should I do/say?!?!

If you really want to stay with her and you believe she can help you, be honest, and tell her you want to keep seeing her for therapy.

[fallenangel337]

(((((((((((((bridgette))))))))))))

I can not even begin to imagine how hard this is for you. To find someone you really like and connect with, then have them do this HAS to be devastating.

I would tell her what you just told us. If it's too hard to verbalize, you could always print out your post and show her. It's definitely worth the shot...telling her how you feel about it. Also, I would ask her why she feels like the other person will work out better. There could be some negative countertransference going on. Like I said, I would definitely talk to her about all of this.

Let us know how it goes.

[Rozine]

You know, in my humble opinion, I would tell her that you feel betrayed - just say it! You may just feel like you've really conquered something by speaking your mind. At the very least, you won't walk away feeling like you didn't address something that really truly bothered you. You might also be surprised or enlightened by her response. Hope it goes well.

[crystalrose]

Definatly tell her that you felt like that she had betrayed you and how hurt you are. Sometimes they suggest silly things without thinking. Hope you can figure it out! also welcome to Psych Central.

[peaches100]

Over the course of my therapy treatment, my therapist has broached the idea of having me go see a different t a couple of times. It has always hurt my feelings alot because even though i knew she had my best interests at heart, there was a part of me that said, "She's trying to get rid of me!! " I let her know how much it hurt me, and we talked things over each time and decided to continue working together.

I would encourage you to let your t know how you feel, and talk about it with her. Try to find out why she thinks you'd progress better with this other therapist. In my case, my t didn't want me to quit seeing her, but she was questioning whether she really had enough skills to help me with my complex problems.