[Crew]

How shoudl I terminate a PHD that thinks he is the best!

He doesn't chose to go to the deep areas of my mind. Not comfortable with that he states. That is where the last of my mess is!

any ideas????? Thanks, ThaCrew

[Luce]

Well... maybe you could just say "I am not going to see you anymore."

If you feel absolutely compelled to give him a reason you could say:

"I don't feel comfortable with you and I don't think we're the right fit for each other."

(It really is okay to say things like that! Sometimes that is just how things are).

Just remember:

As a consumer you have the right to choose a provider that works for you.
You are not indebted to him.
You are not under a contract to stay with him forever.
You don't have to take care of him.
He will be fine.

It REALLY is okay to simply say "This isn't working for me, so I have chosen to not return."
No further explanations are necessary.

[3velniai]

Luce is right.
I can tell how I terminated with my first T. I mentioned I don't like coming to the appts one session, we tried to talk about it, but it didn't work out. Then she went on vacation and I said I will think if I want to come back after it. I decided I don't want to, so I called and said "thanks for your help, but I don't want to come back" she then said that she understands and that I can come back any time if I change up my mind. And that was it.

[possum220]

Ditto - Luce is right you are the consumer.

I just asked for a referral to another T.

It was the best feeling ever.

[pachyderm]

You all may be right, but if you are someone who as a child grew up in a situation where it was dangerous to tell someone that you did not like them, or what they were doing, or wanted any kind of change which meant getting away from them, then to tell someone something like that may be a lot more frightening than you imagine. You have to assume that the T is a lot more mature than your original parent or whoever it was, and that is quite an assumption. They should be, but that doesn't mean they are.