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Oct 16, 2009, 07:32 PM
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Im trying to find a new therapist, but after what my last therapist has done to me I am terrified. I just dont know how I am going to be able to believe anything a therapist says from now on. Its mind numbing how badly my last therapist has hurt me and I know I need the help, but I wonder if its even worth the hassle. Has anyone else had this problem? How did you overcome it?
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Oct 16, 2009, 07:45 PM
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Not to mention, Im basically having to find a therapist to flippin deal with what my last therapist did to me. Is that not seriously messed up?!!!
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Oct 16, 2009, 07:52 PM
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Hey Rainydaygirl,
I was recently betrayed by a dishonest and harmful psychotherapist. Luckily, I had only gone to him 3 times....Later, I found a therapist whose trust, genuineness, and honesty seemingly cannot be matched. I was worried about the same thing....but I just happened to find him. If it can happen to me, it can happen to you too.  After that experience, I was scared too. New Tdoc somehow created some sort of safety bubble around us...not literally, but it was so strong, I could visualize it. It took me 2 months to find him, after psychotherapy from hell, but I did. Same fears you had, but maybe I got lucky? To be realistic--just sayin' maybe it won't happen that soon, but you should be able to trust again-with the right T. It's very painful to have your trust betrayed by an authority figure, especially a mental health professional who you think is not capable of harming you. I learned the hard way. I'm not so naive now. Best of luck... 
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The sun is on my side Take me for a ride I smile up to the sky I know I'll be all right. ~ Natasha Bedingfield 
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Oct 16, 2009, 07:57 PM
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hmmmm
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Oct 17, 2009, 05:58 AM
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This was one of the first things I brought up with the new T. And she assured me we would take it really slow -- "at a snail's pace", and in addition to the core issues, she said we could deal with the hurt cause by my first T. Sometimes it is a leap of faith. My suggestion is to go ahead and put up all your walls and defenses when going to see a new T. Tell her about the walls, and see how she addresses them. If she is a good T, you will slowly begin to trust her and the walls will come down. ((Rainydaygirl)) - I'm sorry that happened to you.
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Oct 17, 2009, 10:01 PM
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Rainydaygirl- Well, I can tell you that I am working on my last therapist with my current therapist and I am learning a lot about myself. I have done nothing but tell my story here on this board about my previous therapist. I dont know what your t did to you, but my t was mean. Not terribly professional in her meanness, and gave me really bad shaming responses. She was distracted and uncaring and cold. I ofund somebody else, but I agonized over my choice. I am still holding back to make sure I can trust her, but I am going ahead and doing the work anyway b/c I need to. She seems trustworthy. And safe.
Go with your instincts when you search for another t. I made a list of characteristics I wanted in my t. Most I find in her now. But dont give up. If I may ask, what was your previous t like? |
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