[~Blossom~]

I had brought this up to my Tdoc a couple weeks ago....

He's been my T for only about 2 months, so he's just getting to know me still (weekly - 45 mins.).

I told him I feel I need to come see him more...even joked I wish some of his other patients would terminate so I could spend more time with him. He knows I wasn't really joking, even though I laughed about the latter, but recognized my thoughts to be serious...And I don't feel its dependency isues and told him so. I know he believes me. He has faith in me, etc....Well, he said he has a waiting list of over a dozen other patients...

So after our session today, my thoughts about this came up again on my drive home, and I'm not sure how to address this with him. He's really awesome - I put him at the very top of my list for being the most genuine, honest, trustworthy person I've ever known in my life....I feel lucky to have him.

However, I'm having major emotional issues right now, and feel I need more intensive therapy. This partly stems from prior Tdoc who dismantled all my defenses and said he could not treat me. Well, me minus my defense mechanisms I've used for decades is incredibly hard to deal with. I can't take the way I feel anymore, and while new Tdoc is great, his approach doesn't seem to be enough.

I don't want him to think I'm questioning his competency at all-I'm not. I think he is super intelligent and skilled, etc. It's just I'm not sure his eclectic style is effective enough for my current personal issues, and the intensity and frequency of the therapy isn't as much as I need right now. Maybe because he is only partially psychoanalytic? I don't know.

I plan on discussing this with him next week, but am unsure how to exactly to handle this. Does anyone have any input to offer - concerning having a great relationship with T, but not sure if it's effective enough?

Thanks in advance, for any advice.

[onlymedid]

Someone told me to keep in mind that T works for you, not the other way around.
That being said, I think you should be as honest as you can about what you are feeling and what you need. You know, more than T would, about what you need right now.

((((((((((((((Blossom)))))))))))))))

I'm sorry you are having a hard time.

Can you tell him specifically what it is that you need? Do you need more than one session a week? Longer sessions? A phone call between sessions? More/less direction from T during sessions?

My T is very willing to give me what I need, but I need to be able to identify it and ask for it. It will probably be easier for both you and T to know if he can give you what you need if you are able to identify what exactly it is that you're needing.

to you!