[Faith_G]

ok, so heres the problem:
I've been with a therapist for a very long time, and during that time, I've become so extremely obsessed with her, I've done non-stop fantasizing and dreaming about her. I have self-injured over her. And now, my mom is taking me to a new one seince i've made no progress. So I have my last session Tuesday. But, i am scared. I've called her home again when she warned me not to, and I have called her a bazzilion times on her cell, and cussed her out. Last time we talked, she was pissed. I really do not want to end this relationship on such a bad note. I am also afraid the transition will not succeed at all

[karebear1]

You sound like you're feeling pretty bad about leaving your T with all that you've said and done. Do you think you can go to T on Tuesday and tell her why, in a calm and respectful manner, you called and cussed her out? Do you know why you did that?

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by Faith_G

ok, so heres the problem:
I've been with a therapist for a very long time, and during that time, I've become so extremely obsessed with her, I've done non-stop fantasizing and dreaming about her. I have self-injured over her. And now, my mom is taking me to a new one seince i've made no progress. So I have my last session Tuesday. But, i am scared. I've called her home again when she warned me not to, and I have called her a bazzilion times on her cell, and cussed her out. Last time we talked, she was pissed. I really do not want to end this relationship on such a bad note. I am also afraid the transition will not succeed at all

I know its hard moving on to a new treatment provider. Ive had to do that a couple times. but its going to be ok.

one thing you need to know about - if you are in the USA and a therapist has asked you not to call them and you do so its against the law. its called harassment and stalking.

my suggestion is the next time you feel like calling this therapist that has told you no more contact, pick up a piece of paper and a pen and write. just keep on writing. what you put down on the paper doesnt matter even if you cuss out this therapist in writing thats ok. then tear up the paper and throw it away.

this will help you to get those feelings out at the same time as following the boundary this therapist has set of no contact.

then when you go to your last session with this therapist your thoughts will be in some sort of order so you and the therapist can deal with it being your last session, why and how to make the transition to the new therapist easier for you.

good byes are hard but as many people here can tell you, its not fun when it happens but its part of being in therapy. some people go through uncountable number of treatment providers during their therapy journey.

just keep going forwards and you will find that therapist that is right for you. not one you become overly dependant or obsessive about but one that can really help you with your problems.