[susierose]

I am in group therapy and one of the therapist keeps farting! I mean he just lets go! A few of us in the group make sure we don't sit too close to him. He dose silent but deadly farts and im sure he knows we smell it. Don't know how to get out of this one....do i say something or just let it be? I mean its bad enough having having to talk about our crap, let alone smell someone else's crap. .

[rainbow8]

I don't have an answer, but I would guess that the poor guy can't help it! Assuming he doesn't have a love of beans! He could probably get help from a doctor but maybe he's embarrassed to ask even though he's a T! He is probably aware of the problem so I don't think saying something would help. Is the group ongoing or does it have an end in sight? I think you just have to continue choosing your seat wisely.

[susierose]

Originally Posted by rainbow8

I don't have an answer, but I would guess that the poor guy can't help it! Assuming he doesn't have a love of beans! He could probably get help from a doctor but maybe he's embarrassed to ask even though he's a T! He is probably aware of the problem so I don't think saying something would help. Is the group ongoing or does it have an end in sight? I think you just have to continue choosing your seat wisely.

The group will last till July next year!!! i will just have to put up with it. The rooms are quiet small, and that don't help. But i understand it maybe a problem he has as you say, and will be polite and say nothing. xxxxx

[TayQuincy]

How do you know it's the therapist? I would think it would be hard to know the source if it's a group of people. How many are in the group? That's a hard one, guess it would be awkward and embarrassing to ask whoever it was (therapist or not) to stop.

[WePow]

OMG ! This post has me laughing so hard! I tend to have SBDs at times in session and feel so bad for T. No puppy around for me to blame it on!!

[crystalrose]

omg how funny but yuk. If your certain its the T then send an anonymous letter to the therapist saying how its making group members uncomfortable. :sick: eww!

Originally Posted by susierose

I am in group therapy and one of the therapist keeps farting! I mean he just lets go! A few of us in the group make sure we don't sit too close to him. He dose silent but deadly farts and im sure he knows we smell it. Don't know how to get out of this one....do i say something or just let it be? I mean its bad enough having having to talk about our crap, let alone smell someone else's crap. .

oh my gosh, sorry, I think this is quite funny...

If you are not feeling comfortable talking to him directly
for example "Please stop farting during session it's really stinky and bothers everyone"

Then you can write a note and give it to him or if you are still uncomfortable, I would leave a note anonymously.

Good luck!

Put a bottle of Gas-X on his desk! maybe he will get the hint

[Elysium]

OMG!!! OMG!!! OMG!!!!

I'm sorry!!! I just couldn't help myself!!!!!!

Click on this link and listen to #9!!!

This thread just cracks me up!!!!

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[danixomarie]

this is a bit funny, yet nasty. I'd probably feel the same way as you... not knowing what to do about it. I agree with writing an anonynmous letter, or you could maybe talk to other members of the group to get their feedback as well... good luck!

[Izzyparker]

I would definitely leave a box of Bean-o (like Gas X) anonymously and indicate that the entire group would benefit. Perfect time of year - Christmas - to give the gift!

[mightaswelllive]

I think this is very mean. Some people have GI issues. How would you feel? Leaving a passive-aggressive note or GasX would probably be a reason for the T to need their own therapy. Have some sensitivity. Gas is a natural human function that people have to deal with. If it bothers you that much, find a different group. I'm sure your T is uncomfortable enough without you interjecting.

If a T can't laugh at himself in this regard, than he does have problems.

If he is doing this in session with clients, than it is an issue, whether natural bodily functions or not. Farting is natural, but doing it that much where everyone knows it is you, than that is probably an underlying medical issue. It either needs to get treated or do something about the symptoms.

Maybe it is an experiment... for the group... on how to deal with... uncomfortable issues...

At my old job there used to be this chain smoker who would always be coughing, but the thing is she couldn't control her bladder. So it STUNK because the fabric seat was getting wet after every cough. and we tried to do things like put a deodorizer under her chair or something but it didn't work. Eventually the boss had to talk to her about it because she was clueless.

If I were to become a T, I would make sure I had some beano or simply not eat gassy foods before I see clients. LIke when my dog does it, I can claim, OMG, that is nasty to him, but in real life public situations you can't do that. If a T can't handle being told he needs to do something about his farts, than he has more problems than that obviously.

I agree with mightaswelllive on this one. Passive-aggressive anonymous notes and Beano are just hurtful. My sister has very severe GI problems that are the result of cancer. No amount of Beano or avoiding certain foods is going to solve that problem. Many GI problems are beyond those simple solutions. You may want this person to "laugh" about their problem, but it very well may not be a laughing matter to them. At least have the respect to ask them directly about the problem. Maybe you'll get a straight answer by simply being kind, concerned, and honest. Hopefully it isn't a major illness this person is dealing with and just bringing it to their attention will be all it will take, but do it respectfully.

I do agree with what you are saying. But I think part of the responsibility should be with the T also. If you have a medical issue that is causing bad smelling gas, making those around you uncomfortable, because let's face it, it is not a pleasant thing, they should say something about it, not sit in silence like it isn't happening.

In therapy we learn to deal with our issues, if a T is farting and stinking up the place, regardless if it is a medical problems or not, they need to know how to deal with this problem when with other people. (especially a T at work) Ignoring the issue isn't the answer. The beano is just a joke, (or it was for me anyway) I don't really think anyone believed we actually was serious about doing that. Farting is an uncomfortable situation in public, and sometimes we aren't able to just go up and ask a person about it. (especially a person's T)
I think this thread was meant to be funny, not so serious. At least that is what I thought. I will go crawl back into my cave now.

My dad had colon cancer, and while that wasn't funny, his farts were. (farts are just funny anyway) But that is just me. But at least he acknowledged them when he did them.

Besides even a beginning T knows, if issues are in the room, it can't be ignored like a giant pink elephant, it needs to be dealt with because it is affecting the therapy. Just sitting there without an "excuse me." seems rather rude, no matter what the reason is.

[susierose]

thank you for your replies, Yes it is funny! But when your in the room god its so not! . The group had a discussion to day we all agreed it was him as its only in the group he is in and every one smells it. So we are going to write a letter unsigned and leave it in the day room addressed to all therapist's. The guilty one will now who they are!!!

[rainbow8]

I can't help but think that letter your group is going to write will embarrass this T and make it uncomfortable for the other Ts too. I think the T already must know he has a problem. Maybe he's trying to change his diet, or maybe it doesn't help. If it is so offensive, perhaps he shouldn't work directly with people, but I think giving the Ts an anonymous letter is childish and mean.

If you must talk to someone about this T, what about talking to one of the other Ts? Then it would be his responsibility to talk to the one with the problem. I call it a problem because I don't think anyone willingly wants to embarrass himself in this way.

[possum220]

Maybe take a bottle of perfume or room deoderizer and spray it when he lets one rip?

[WePow]

One day my mom and dad were in walmart together when I was visiting them. Mom has SBD and my dad has noise makers. He was on one side of the store and she was on the other. All the customers would run away to the other side of the store away from my mom then my dad would let one rip. They would run the other direction = and well I never laughed so hard in my entire life.

[deliquesce]

i like rainbow's idea. get one 'spokesperson' for your group go talk to one of the other Ts and then let that T address it with the offending T in private. i think an anonymous note would be really hurtful.

having been told i likely had bowel cancer a few years ago, and feeling devastated enough about the situation, it really would have hurt even more for my friends and/or colleagues to send anonymous notes my way. a concerned "i've noticed you have a problem with x,y,z and was wondering if everything is ok" is direct and open and honest and something i appreciated. my problems weren't related to flatulence at all, but still weren't "polite conversation" topics, and having an anonymous note would have been a nice big flag for shame to set in.

[possum220]

Yes the T may have some medical issue, in which case he should have addressed the group. However I do know some people just don't care about farting in public.

Could it be that he is using this method to get some-one to address the facts that they are too scared to face issues.??

Either way he needs help and so does the group. Just tell him.....................