[moonrise]

I'm finally feeling deeply connected to my T. I feel what I can only term as love for her. It's not romantic, at all, but a deep connection I've rarely felt. She knows more about me than my dh. She, for that 50 minutes every week, gets me. She holds my secrets. I don't expect her to love me back. I know that would not be realistic or even desired. But I am so aware of how deep our relationship has gone. It both scares me and makes me happy. Wow. Is this what therapy is? I mean, is this part of it? I finally feel like I can trust this one person with things i've kept secret for a lifetime. I love her for that.

But I can't say love to her. What the heck can I say?

[WePow]

Love comes in many flavors :-) It is what it is in this case. Allow it to just be that wonderful rare rose.

[ECHOES]

I am so aware of how deep our relationship has gone.

Does this sound like something you could say to her?

Wow. Is this what therapy is? I mean, is this part of it? I finally feel like I can trust this one person with things i've kept secret for a lifetime. I love her for that.

Yes, isn't this so wonderful

My T will sometimes say that she "cares for me very deeply." In some ways, that feels better than if she were to say "I love you" because "I love you" was such a throwaway phrase in my family growing up. People said it all the time, but never demonstrated that love.

I'd rather be cared for deeply.

Maybe you could tell your T how deeply you care?

[sunrise]

Originally Posted by moonrise

Wow. Is this what therapy is?

Yes!

You can tell her how deeply connected and close you feel to her. I am sure she would be honored to hear your words.

[moonrise]

Thanks, everyone. There's good words here.

Originally Posted by moonrise

I'm finally feeling deeply connected to my T. I feel what I can only term as love for her. It's not romantic, at all, but a deep connection I've rarely felt. She knows more about me than my dh. She, for that 50 minutes every week, gets me. She holds my secrets. I don't expect her to love me back. I know that would not be realistic or even desired. But I am so aware of how deep our relationship has gone. It both scares me and makes me happy. Wow. Is this what therapy is? I mean, is this part of it? I finally feel like I can trust this one person with things i've kept secret for a lifetime. I love her for that.

But I can't say love to her. What the heck can I say?

You can say thank you very much... and i betcha t would love it!

[darkrunner]

Moonrise -
I'm so glad for you!
I hope I can reach that point some day.
Do you mind me asking - how long have you been seeing your T?

Originally Posted by moonrise

finally feel like I can trust this one person with things i've kept secret for a lifetime.

Can you say this? How good it feels to be able to trust someone with the things you've kept secret for a lifetime?

I'm glad you are feeling connected...that has been the most healing part of therapy for me. It's like I let myself be SO vulnerable...and instead of being hurt, I am cared for. It's such a good thing.

to you

[granite1]

wow thats awsome how long have you been in therapy