[Squirrel1983]

So I think I am posting this to the correct forum. I had posts related to this one that were moved from other mental health to here, so I thought I would post this one here. If it is in the wrong place, a mod may move it.

So, I posted on here about writing a letter to my pdoc of my concerns a few weeks ago. Well, my next appointment is tomorrow and I am dreading it. I'm afraid what he will say about the letter. Plus, part of the letter was explaining why I thought my Asperger's diagnosis was wrong. My mom told me a month ago that the diagnostic criteria I sent her did not fit me whatsoever as a child. So, I started looking for other things that could possibly be wrong with me and asked about the possibility of a personality disorder in my letter explaining which symptoms I thought fit me and why.

Then, yesterday, my mom sent me a new email stating that she was in denial that I could have Asperger's earlier and that she reanswered the questions for me. Now, based on her answers of me as a kid, I did fit the criteria for it as a kid. So, now I feel sure the original diagnosis was correct. It was only because of her earlier answers that I began to think harder that it wasn't (I sort of felt it myself as I did not remember how I was as a kid and her answers led me astray).

So, now I am going to look like an idiot at my appointment tomorrow. "Oh the letter? Let's forget about it. Why? Oh because my mom is an idiot and didn't give correct answers the first time. She said she was in denial that something could be wrong with me. I don't know why she suddenly changed her answers, but she did." Yea, like that is going to be believable. He's going to think I am crazy. And that's definitley not something I want him thinking about me. He already thinks I am slightly psychotic, I don't need him thinking I am out of my mind too.

Any suggestions on how to explain that my mom decided to change her answers in a believable way so that I won't be considered crazy tomorrow.

[Perna]

Oh, I wouldn't feel badly about yourself! Everyone wants to know about how dx's are determined and why they fit one and not another and your thoughtful letter shows you are participating in your health care and interested, not that you're an "idiot". Share with him your frustration with your mother and about how it's great that she was able to admit she may have been mistaken and in denial. It's not a hard science with one right answer and it's very possible you could have multiple issues going on, not just one. Many of us here do have multiple issues and then, usually doctors and therapists try to figure out which to tackle "first".

It's your health care and you're allowed to have an opinion about it! Make those doctors work for their money, LOL.