[MissCharlotte]

Every once in a while T gets on his soap box and starts giving me his opinion on something I am doing. Last week he was blah blah blah-ing and I looked at him and said, "Are you done lecturing?" He said, "uh huh." I was mildly annoyed but at the same time knew he really really cared about me enough to get passionate about my actions. It wasn't until the ride home that I noticed the exchange though was a regression and that I had really become a defiant teenager and T the caring parent. I don't think I noticed this before because I don't know what it feels like to be on the receiving end of a caring parental lecture. (I give plenty to my own kids but my parents were unable.) I do know that if this had occurred two years ago I would have been really really really mad at him because I would have expected the explosive temper of my father and the learned explosive reaction from myself. I think this is proof that the healing comes in such tiny increments but is really, truly, possible.

I feel lucky.

[WePow]

That is so wonderful! Thank you much for sharing!!!

Originally Posted by MissCharlotte

I think this is proof that the healing comes in such tiny increments but is really, truly, possible.

I feel lucky.

I love those moments when I realize that something has CHANGED - so slowly that I didn't see it happening, but that things are different inside than they were before.

I love when T gets parental on me too. He doesn't do it very often, but when he does, I feel both irritated and loved at the same time. Maybe that's how kids of healthy, caring parents feel when they get lectured? Irritated and loved?

Thanks for sharing your session, Miss

[Melbadaze]

Miss c, Its hard to know without knowing the content and context, but if you felt safe and cared for still whilst T was lecturing then I guess it is ok??