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Jul 21, 2010, 09:17 PM
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I had a tough session today and was worried that I had scared my T. I asked her if she was afraid of me and she said no, not at all. She said that she had clients in the past that made her want to put them on the other side of the door, but that I was just fine.
Has anyone ever scared their T? What was the reaction? I don't ever want to scare her.
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Jul 21, 2010, 09:43 PM
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I know I have scared a t in the past. He wasn't scared OF me, but he was scared that he couldn't handle the situation. It was a very severe reaction I had to something going on in that particular session. We got through it though, but he has told me since that that was the scariest moment he's ever had as a therapist.
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Jul 22, 2010, 05:04 AM
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Jul 22, 2010, 05:58 AM
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When I was working with one of my alters who had not been to session before - one who happened to stay hidden unless I was in front of a mirror - one who was very dark and the part of me who carried the deepest levels of anger and would imagine the revenge against perps... When that one came out in session unexpectedly (T has since then moved the mirror so he can only use it when needed)... Well I slipped into talking with that alter the way I did when I was a teen which was almost to whisper to the alter in the mirror. Things went to anger very fast and I automatically raised my first to my reflection like I was going to smash it and T yelled for me to stop. He said "You just scared me."
I felt very sad for that, but he got to see first hand what demon I fought every time I looked in the mirror when I was alone! And he didn't stop being my T :-) |
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Jul 22, 2010, 08:09 AM
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Do you mean physically afraid? No. I don't think he's ever been afraid of me in any way. Afraid for me. Yes.
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Jul 22, 2010, 08:30 AM
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I don't think I've scared my t, but i know that i've made her a bit uncomfortable, or perhaps i should say i've thrown her off guard, with my expressions of affection toward her. I've also at times made her question her own qualifications.
Even though they try not to, sometimes t's react to us according to their own "stuff" (see the thread "What I Sent My T"). My t and i recently had a bad rupture that was based on something my t did that i did not understand. Finally, she told me why she reacted the way she did, and it wasn't my fault, it had to do with her stuff. I appreciate knowing how and why my t reacts the way she does so that i don't blame myself for a reaction that i don't understand. Unfortunately, she's very private and rarely shares her reactions with me. I wish she would do it more. |
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Jul 22, 2010, 06:34 PM
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Wow, thanks for all of the responses. I don't think I would mind if she was scared for me, but I don't want to scare HER. She is so nice, caring, giving and understanding.
I do worry about an alter coming out because I think that's where I was headed in session and I just can't do that. I'm too afraid of the possible repercussions.
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Jul 22, 2010, 06:46 PM
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I'm pretty sure, from what you said, that your T will tell you if you ever scare her. She's keeping good boundaries for you, and that would be close to going over one, for your own safety ... and hers.
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Jul 22, 2010, 07:52 PM
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I think I've worried from time to time that a dark, evil part of me would at one point surface and that we both should be afraid of that part. I don't seem to have that fear so much anymore. I also remember telling my T about an incident in school were I lost control and defended myself against another student. In doing so mu rage clearly scared one of my teachers. Seeing the teacher's reaction had affected me a great deal at that time. I think if my T ever showed that she was afraid of me, I wouldn't be able to continue.
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Jul 22, 2010, 08:38 PM
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the T i have now has never been scared of me but in the past is i very differnt story.when i had T i either needed to be heavely medicated or held down durring T i'm sure this was do to the fact that my T wasnt very comfortable with me.i laugh at that now because i'm only 4 ft 8 and 120lbs.
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Jul 23, 2010, 07:28 AM
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"The mind is like a parachute. It doesn’t work unless it’s open." Don’t look where you fall, but where you slipped.
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Jul 23, 2010, 07:29 AM
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"The mind is like a parachute. It doesn’t work unless it’s open." Don’t look where you fall, but where you slipped.
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Jul 23, 2010, 07:37 AM
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