How much do you remember?

MissCharlotte · Aug 25, 2010 at 10:34 PM

So, like you guys I am really missing T. He's on vacation and it's been a week since I last saw him. Today was a really rough day--I started back to work and felt really annoyed at him for never being around during this stressful time of year for me (I'm a schoolteacher). Anyhow, I was trying to remind myself about the session we had before he went away, and how nice nad kind he was in-session. He does this sort of thing when we're going to have a break where he reminds me of the qualities of the relationship. But I can't for the life of me remember exactly what he said and it's driving me crazy! It was something like, "blah, blah, blah, bah." You get grouchy, I get grouchy and we work it out." I wish I could remember what the blah blah blah meant!

I just don't know if my memory issues are dissociative, medication effects, or anxiety I might have about a situation-in this case, T's abandoning me again. I I really wish he were here.

looking4polaris · Aug 25, 2010 at 10:54 PM

Sorry you are missing your T. I don't have any suggestions for how to remember more. I also struggle to remember the things my T says. I go in telling myself "this time I will remember more," but it always ends up a fuzzy memory. I even asked T once how I could remember more of what he says, but I don't remember what his answer was

Oceanwave · Aug 26, 2010 at 03:30 AM

Do you remember how you FELT about what he said?

I'm sorry you are missing him. It's an unlucky coincidence that he always takes his holidays when school starts and you need him.

WikidPissah · Aug 26, 2010 at 07:54 AM

I replay and overthink everything that's said. Over and over. over and over...over and over....ugh

Aug 26, 2010 at 08:00 AM

I make it a point to journal about my sessions as soon as I get home from them. That helps me hone in on the most important messages at least.

Perna · Aug 26, 2010 at 10:57 AM

I could never remember the exact wording my T used and it sometimes bothered me when I wanted to. I got very good at remembering "subjects" and the gist of what was said and/or exact experiences and what their "moral" was :-)

Amazonmom · Aug 26, 2010 at 11:49 AM

I wish I remembered more of each session because I would like to be able to hold the same subject across multiple sessions. I should journal like other PC members do.

MissCharlotte · Aug 26, 2010 at 05:28 PM

Yeah, I like the idea of remembering the feeling. I felt like he said something really really nice. So I guess I'll go with that. After reading Tree's post, I agreed (with myself) that I am simply missing him so much and angry with him at the same time. This year the feelings of abandonment that I am working through are a bit different. I'll try and write it out tonight.

granite1 · Aug 26, 2010 at 06:55 PM

i have a hard time remembering what was said in T a lot so i try too journal as soon as i can after sesson and i also have to relax sometimes and the memories will come bac to me in a day or so in flashes and then i will write them down so i can read it over and over again

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Oceanwave Veteran Member Member Since Aug 2010 Posts: 560 14	Aug 26, 2010 at 03:30 AM #3 Do you remember how you FELT about what he said? I'm sorry you are missing him. It's an unlucky coincidence that he always takes his holidays when school starts and you need him.
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WikidPissah Euphie Queen Member Since Jul 2010 Location: New England Posts: 10,718 (SuperPoster!) 14 4,940 hugs given	Aug 26, 2010 at 07:54 AM #4 I replay and overthink everything that's said. Over and over. over and over...over and over....ugh __________________ never mind...
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Anonymous32910 Guest Posts: n/a	Aug 26, 2010 at 08:00 AM #5 I make it a point to journal about my sessions as soon as I get home from them. That helps me hone in on the most important messages at least.
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Perna Pandita-in-training Member Since Sep 2006 Location: Maryland Posts: 27,289 (SuperPoster!) 18 550 hugs given	Aug 26, 2010 at 10:57 AM #6 I could never remember the exact wording my T used and it sometimes bothered me when I wanted to. I got very good at remembering "subjects" and the gist of what was said and/or exact experiences and what their "moral" was :-) __________________ "Never give a sword to a man who can't dance." ~Confucius
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Amazonmom Grand Poohbah Member Since Feb 2009 Location: usa Posts: 1,730 15 183 hugs given	Aug 26, 2010 at 11:49 AM #7 I wish I remembered more of each session because I would like to be able to hold the same subject across multiple sessions. I should journal like other PC members do. __________________ "Unipolar is boring! Go Bipolar!" Amazonmom is not putting up with bad behavior any more.
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