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http://blogs.psychcentral.com/unplugged/2010/08/a-love-affair-with-your-therapist/
Peaches sent me this and I liked it. I sent it to my T and she liked it too. She even told me we could do the "bear" idea if I want. Comments? |
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wow. That felt like she was talking right to me. It also made my stomach hurt, I don't know why. Thanks for sharing that, rainbow.
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LOVE the bear idea, but don't know that I'd be brave enough to bring it up. Thanks for sharing.
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Rainbow, I liked the article. It seems to describe really well the same thing that some posters on PC have described for themselves. It helps me understand better. Even though I did not have a nurturing relationship with my mother, I don't find much of myself in that article. That lack affected me differently, I guess. Yet I have found great healing in therapy, but it's pretty different for me than what is described here. There are many ways the T relationship can help us.... A few parts of the article that interested me (underlinings mine):
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The author describes specifically female clients and getting the mother-daughter relationship they never had from their T. Her own T was female. Can a person with this need get this from a male T? I thought the thing she described with the two teddy bears was really sweet. ![]() ![]()
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sorry...it kind of creeps me out a bit! I don't want to be that close to anyone! But I am very glad it helps others!
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My T says she is basically CBT but in fact she uses a lot of other "techniques" as she sees the need (I recoil from the idea of "nurture" for myself but she has definitely brought it up, I have a feeling I will hear more about that in future). Maybe the key is that a "good therapist" is open to the ideas of more than one "orientation" to better match the endless variety of clients. Your own T I believe you have said in the past is somewhat experimental, maybe to a surprising degree at times ![]() |
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My T is definitely CBT but uses other stuff too, sometimes. I think. I know her basis is CBT, though. And yet I do see a lot of the kind of nurturing that the article talked about. It is not something that we have ever talked about. My T really, really doesn't seem to want to spend time talking about our relationship or anything going on between us. So, no, we've never talked about my unfulfilled needs and the way she is meeting them now. But she does it. I'm sure it's not by accident.
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rainbow thank you so much for posting this article. I too felt like this article was speaking to me. I have that inner desire, longing etc.. of needing to connect with another woman in a mother/daughter/sister type bond. I have two brothers and no other women in my life that I had that type of close bond/connection with. I am a mom with two boys no daughters. I do however feel that need being met to a degree just being in the presence of my T.
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