[geez]

I'm feeling a little upset about something that happened in T today.

One or two sessions ago (I lose track of time sometimes ) I gave T printouts from my journal. Two of the printouts were journal entries about dreams I had about her. They were rather lengthy so she didn't read them right then and she told me she would read them later and tell me what she thought they meant. Well she never said anything since then so today in my apt I told her that I wondered what she thought about the dreams that she read. Her words were this: "I have nothing more to say about them". It was the end of the apt and I just sat there and said: "ok".

Perhaps she talked about them and I had an out of body experience? I'm kind of feeling like I'm at a loss for words right now. I kind of feel hurt. - or am I just being a baby about it all??? - am I being too critical?

[sunrise]

The way she said "more", it sounds like she already commented on them at another time? But she didn't? It is confusing. Do the two of you do dream work together often? I know some Ts aren't into dreams. If you have never discussed dreams together before, maybe she is one of those Ts who don't like to work with dreams. I think it is worth asking about! I know if it were me, I would be forever discouraged from bringing up a dream with her again, after that response.

[zooropa]

I agree with sunny, it IS confusing. Just knowing what you posted, I would have been scratching my head too, but like you I probably wouldn't have said anything at the time. These things always tend to bug me later, when T isn't readily available to help clear it up.

I think it sounds like she thinks you already talked about the dreams. Either she is mistaken or you forgot (do you dissociate in session sometimes? I do). I think, either way, it'd be appropriate for you to talk to her about it. If you find that she did give you her thoughts and you just don't remember it, that in itself will give you both some useful information.

All that to say, I don't think you're overreacting at all and I would likely be spiraling out about it too in your shoes.

[geez]

Originally Posted by sunrise

Do the two of you do dream work together often?

We have done dream work before in the past (it related to SA but never a dream about T etc...) - Perhaps that is why? - The dreams I wanted to discuss where about her. Nothing about SA etc.. just fears I had about her - I think .

Thank you for your thoughts.

Originally Posted by zooropa

I think, either way, it'd be appropriate for you to talk to her about it. If you find that she did give you her thoughts and you just don't remember it, that in itself will give you both some useful information.

Thank you zoo! I'm scared out of my mind to ask her - UGH! - but I'm going to ask her because I have to now as painful as it will be to ask her. The real question is: Is she lying or did I not hear her?

[zooropa]

I think it's possible, and more likely, that she's not lying but just thinks you had a conversation that you didn't actually have. Unless she meant she doesn't want to talk about the dreams at all, but that doesn't seem very, um, therapeutic? I don't think she's lying, though.

I wonder if she thought about the dreams and then forgot that she hadn't actually shared her thoughts with you?

My T leaves me voice mails after sessions. Twice, he forgot to do it, and when i called to remind him, he said that he had thought of the perfect message in his head and then forgot that he hadn't actually called and left it. Of course, maybe he's more scatterbrained than most people

I would ask her about it. I know it's so so so hard to ask T those kinds of questions, but in the end, it's harder for me to be stuck wondering and spiraling and jumping to all kinds of conclusions that may not be true.

to you.

[geez]

Originally Posted by treehouse

I wonder if she thought about the dreams and then forgot that she hadn't actually shared her thoughts with you?

My T leaves me voice mails after sessions. Twice, he forgot to do it, and when i called to remind him, he said that he had thought of the perfect message in his head and then forgot that he hadn't actually called and left it. Of course, maybe he's more scatterbrained than most people

I would ask her about it. I know it's so so so hard to ask T those kinds of questions, but in the end, it's harder for me to be stuck wondering and spiraling and jumping to all kinds of conclusions that may not be true.

to you.

Thank you treehouse . My T is a professor so I'm sure she has lots going on in her mind. Thank you for giving me a new way to look at it. I will ask her about it at the next apt on Tuesday. I think the 'angle' I'll approach it from is I'm sorry but I don't remember having the conversation of your thoughts about the dreams.